Genealogy Chat

I sent someone an email at the end of May to say I thought we had the same person in our Trees. I have no record of a reply. At the beginning of Sept I sent another message, received a reply by return and asked for their email addy so I could send them a gedcom file. Today, 3 MONTHS later, I got an email out of the blue giving the email addy. I have just written back asking them to remind me what it was I was going to send as I have forgotten.

Oops... I think it is so rude when people don't reply in a reasonable time. I was always taught to reply as soon as possible. It is so frustrating isn't it?

Maybe this person isn't on Genes 24 hours a day like us? Perhaps they only check once in a while and also, if they have changed their email addy since registering, they won't get an email reminder either. Sam x

5 days gone by and no reply yet.

Sam, Do you mean there REALLY are people who don't spend all day, every day, on here - ignoring all housework ?????????? I think my husband would like to swap me for one of them !! Dea x

hi, sometimes i don't get a reply at all, some do reply rather quickly though, but i always mail people back as soon as i get their mail just so they know one way or another, i get an e-mail from genes telling me someone has mailed me. but i do think it is rather ignorant not to reply even if it to tell you there is no link. tracey.

It is frustrating when people don't reply at all. Makes me wonder why they have posted peoples' names here if they don't want to be contacted about them. I always reply straight away, as I know how important it is for people to at least eliminate you from their enquiries. People have to be the biggest mystery in life. I can only assume they have signed up in the flush of a short-lived interest in their family tree. Sam

Still no reply!

Grampa Don't give up hope! I am one of the guilty parties who sometimes takes ages to reply (although I try not to!) There are two main reasons for this: 1. I work away from home during the week and don't always have either the time or the facility, depending on where I am, to access the net. Even if I do, I don't always have the detailed notes with me to confirm connections. 2. I have over 1400 confirmed rellies on my tree, and as a consequence, get loads of potential matches - its hard to keep up sometimes! I've only today replied properly, after prompting, from someone to whom I sent a holding message (Yes, there's a connection, but I'm not at home and I'll have to check it out and get back to you) on the 3rd of November! I had forgotten about the contact unfortunately, and I'm so glad he persevered, as he and my husband have 3 x great grandparents in common. I'm looking forward to the day (long in the future!) when I can retire and spend all my waking hours on this absorbing hobby!! So don't give up hope - I'm sure people really don't mean to be rude. Kind Regards Ellen.