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Advice please on meeting cousins
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Phoenix | Report | 19 Oct 2005 20:29 |
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Phoenix | Report | 19 Oct 2005 20:30 |
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Last year we found a distant cousin through this site and were clearly too pushy: offers to meet up came to nothing. This year we’ve found an even more distant cousin (not via GR!) and we’re meeting up in London this weekend. My feeling is that anyone can find censuses, certificates etc – and lots of info has been going back and forth – but what are unique are photos, memories etc. Advice please, as we don’t want to mess up a second time! |
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Heather | Report | 19 Oct 2005 20:32 |
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Oh Brenda, Im sure you will be ok. I met mine last year when he came up from Devon and he was a lovely chap, felt like Id known him all my life and of course, in a way you have because you share the genes. Just relax and be a mate. |
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Unknown | Report | 19 Oct 2005 20:58 |
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A quick call the day before would be nice just to see that their plans havnt fell through and the meeting place is still ok with them,,,,,and mention that you will be bringing family photos which you feel they might find intresting,,,,,then it leaves it open for them to do the same....keep your runnung commentery on their level at the meeting as not to swamp them with all the ins and out of obtaining all what you have,,,as not all understand all the hard work involved..... most of all listen to their chain of events,,,,ask if they mind you taking notes and get their permission to include them on any paperwork,,, Sit back relax and enjoy it........ |
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Paul | Report | 19 Oct 2005 21:17 |
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Here's a tip - take pepper spray and NEVER go alone!!! |
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Phoenix | Report | 19 Oct 2005 21:25 |
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Thanks for this. We don't want to appear complete anoraks (which we are!) and it's just as well that it's October, otherwise we might be dragging the poor woman off on an ancestor crawl. I can see I shall be doing breathing exercises, and practising talking slowly! |
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Heather | Report | 19 Oct 2005 21:26 |
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Meet in a pub Brenda! (Anyway we had fun and we arent even cousins, are we - and I doubt they will have a tooth abscess on the day!) |
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Phoenix | Report | 19 Oct 2005 21:39 |
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Heather I'll feel like the angel of doom if they do have a tooth abscess (oh, please don't put a hex on me as I'm getting a broken tooth repaired tomorrow!) You must come down south and have some Croydon hospitality. We're having Stephen Humphrey to talk to us in January, if you're interested. Paul I'm much too old to start being sensible now (accepting lifts from strangers was the best way to get to see all the churches I wanted to visit in Norfolk when I was young) but it's good advice for the new cousin, lol. |
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The Bag | Report | 19 Oct 2005 21:51 |
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Abbess - dont go with a plan,, just go with the flow. let this meeting just happen and dont expect a lot from it - you are still better off then if you hadn't met.No pressure, be interested but dont push for info, that can come later - the best way to ensure there is a next time is to take it slowly. Jess x |
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