Genealogy Chat

My tummy has had butterflies since this morning. I received my BM's Death cert. She died 13 months after I was born. She lived with her sister who had a son(found this out by earlier research). This son .............named HIS daughter with my name......He would have been 13years of age when I went for adoption. Unfortunately he died approx 15 years ago. He must have wondered throughout his life what had happened to me. It's very sad . I did e-mail the person,with my name /on this site But have not heard anything.............I am plucking up the courage to e-mail again. Ann

awww how sweet go ahead and contact them - you've got nothing to lose

Ann How often in this family tree stuff do we find people when its too late! At least you have some answers to your questions. Do e-mail again. You never know, the person may have accidentally deleted the message, or not known how to respond. Worth a second go. nell

Hi Ann,,, How very sad;;it is one thing knowing but to have it in black and white really brings it home,,,but you do have a name sake and thats must be a real comfort;;if you think you may have found her then go for it again,,,but they may nolonger be a member,but could be traced:: kay.

Thanks guys. I have actually done a *miss marple* and have found where they live BUT really wanted to break the ice on here first.........I am wondering why they put their name on here.Were they *looking* to be found ? Maybe they are just as apprehensive as I am! Ann x

Ann ; Give it another go;;and if you get no reply after time,perhaps GR can say if they still have active membership,, then think your only option is direct contact to them,, perhaps they never thought when posting that you would also be a member??? kay.

Thanks a lot kay..if they are not full members do they still get the e-mails do you know?..........I presume they do but can't reply. I'll give it another go.....I only really want info from them, a photo maybe + my history. Ann x

In case they can't reply through GRs message system, you might want to consider giving them your home email? Good luck

GOOD LUCK ANN,GO AHEAD AND EMAIL AGAIN YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOOSE BUT LOTS TO GAIN BEST WISHES ANGIE

Hi Ann, I am back from my holidays now :O) and willl e-mail you direct in a minute, for what its worth I agree you can try direct contact this person would be your cousins daughter, the people that were involved have passed on and there would be no-one to hurt and it may bring you some closure if you can get some information on your birth mother. Will be in touch soon. Take Care Sheila p,s 2 things she should still get her e-mails if her membership has run our unless she has changed her e-mail adress, and did you say you have her current adress as I could look it up for you.

Thanks everyone. Yes thanks Sheila I have the address. I will e-mail again..any ideas what to put in the subject plz? I don't want to scare them off. I keep wondering what a little 13 yr old boy thought when his cousin(but am guessing more like a sister as we all lived together) was taken away. It must have had a devestating effect.(he lost his aunt as well, of course.......fell downstairs+died as a result). The only sibling in my BM's family I can't find is her sister, who she lived with. All sorts of scenarios are going through my mind. The *boy* in question married at 18. I wonder what she did then. Its all very intriguing. Thanks again all Ann x