General Chat

i heard a guy once used to say he blacked out every time he battered his wife. he would do it if his football team lost or she came home 10 mins late he would beat her. funy that tho he never blacked out when huge tall men his own size were around he wouldnt dream of taking any man on here for a fight rather have one with a girl. that was him all over used to cry when a guy backed him into a corner.

Oh and a piece of advice that I was given...... if he ever threatens to come over you can call the police and tell them that!!

You do not have to wait until he arrives!

xx

nothing BRINGS THAT ON as suggested just reading the threads,

absolutely nothing warrants that treatment,
im working with a head ache here and a slow puter but im sure grannie said her daughter got a broken nose,
im pretty sure i did

thats NOT a slap across the face, to break someones nose is a hard smak, and no one deserves that,

grannie
i do hope your daughter is ok, and the boys are too,
they will make thier own minds up of their dad by what theyve seen, they dont need to be told , kids are very good judges of character, and it sounds like they are good lads defending their mam,
i hope they are all safe, adn remain that way,
tell your daughter to ask police about a panic number, that way soon as she phones them they will be there so quick

Frank I don't know you but having read all this thread at least 4 times I agree with Lynda.... and trust me that doesn't normally happen as she and I don't speak!

Your first post sounded like a normal bloke's explanation of a woman beater!! As yes I've been there!

I've heard the man I love say he just slapped me when in fact I've been beaten, and no I wasn't playing away!

I accept your reasoning but your wording initially wasn't great!

Grannie..... I hope your daughter is safe and out of harm

xx

Frank, I think you have apologised and explained enough, you don't know Annie or her family as you haven't been on the boards long, I don't think so, wouldn't have known Annie's daughter got shot of the bloke a while back.
I am sure Annie would understand what you meant after your further explanations.
Just hope this chap is made to stay away now for good, and the lads are ok, as well as Annie's daughter.

Lizx

Grannie, so sorry if I upset you in anyway, I was only trying to think what could have bought this on.He sounds an absolute waste of space and her and the children must be better off without him. Would he be so brave in front of a MAN.

Frank

Sorry Lynda, But a slap across the face is not a beating.and if you haven't been in that situation I don't think you have the right to condem anyone who has. I only asked the question because this is often the reason someone might loose there temper.and lash out at their partner. I am not condoning any man beating his wife, and would be the first to defend any woman in that situation.

Frank

My late ex husband was a alcoloholic and there was a lot of violence in the home, but has I said before that was over twenty years ago, had I known the damage that both of us was doing to the children I would have not stayed so long in the marriage, because in my case it has done the children (who are now in their thirteis) long term damage.
lynn

No Frank,she has not been playing away.In fact 2 weeks ago i went with her and her 3 boys and took another couple of grandchildren on a Sun holiday for a couple of days.We had a good time,but this is her childrens yearly holiday.Her ex is a waste of space and never ever gave her a penny.She goes to work and pays for everything.She has had enough and she told him to go back in April.She got punched in the face as she had her friend round who he also threatened and she dont want him back.In fact she has not got the time to have anyone else as her boys all belong to football clubs and swimming clubs.Her kids are her life at the moment. Annie

Yes Frank being cheated on is rotten, and it must have been so very heartbreaking for you. Can understand you losing it.

My first husband did not cheat on me, to my knowledge, but putting his mates, before me was as heartbreaking. I felt like hitting him, on several occasions, but never did.

He died, and I remarried, and as you have been happy for the past 30 years, so have I for the past 41years.

Rose,

Thanks for your understanding, It was a quick temper reaction. and would never ever consider hitting a woman again. I have been remarried for over 30 years and as happy as Larry

Lynda,
I assume you have not had your husband cheat on you. Don't judge peoples response to being cheated on after 18 years of marriage. YOU HAVE NO RIGHT.

There was a old song in the East End of London years ago.entitled 'Bash me again Bill'. Cant remember it, but it inferred that she knew he loved her if he bashed her.

What a funny slant on life?

no Lynda, it isn't ever excusable really but I can understand the former being a one off 'slip' (having a quick temper myself) .... the latter is that step beyond ...never excusable in any circumstance...

I have never forgotten the little girl (maybe 18) who stayed late in my shop one evening with her baby....she showed me her arms and chest covered in bruises.... "he loves me really...only hits me when he's drunk"...

I called around and got her a place for the night with women's refuge...next day she was back with him...I often wonder if she had the strength to get out.

I would never give anyone a second chance to hit me I have to say.

xx

Sorry to hear this Grannie...hope your daughter will be ok in every respect,

Frank I am sure you would accept there is a difference between a swift open handed slap across the face given in anger at finding out about an affair ( maybe that might be excusable ) .... and the the sort of blow that breaks someones nose!

What b......ds some men are!

And what a worry for Mums and Dads of the poor girls who suffer at their hands.

Sorry to hear this Annie. Hope your daughter isn't in too much pain,horrible experience for her and in front of her boys.

Mau xxx

Agree 100% with Len

Sadly he will probably be out within 24 hours.... please get her to speak to the police station and make a condition of bail that he can't contact her or come within 100 ft of her.

That way if he does they will arrest him immediately

D

Another case of a violent husband, how often do we see it ? Any man who hits a woman is a bully and a coward, and deserves to be imprisoned.Len..

With domestic violence the police take it out of your hands and you have no say whether you prosecute or not.My daughter had her friend round looking at her 2 baby pups born on sunday night when one of the boys let him in.He threatened her friend as well and she was the one that called the police.At the mo he is still in the police station. Annie