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Karen

Karen Report 25 Aug 2009 23:06

Hi
I sent a message to a member today about someone in their tree, and got a message back with the someones phone number, but the member I contacted said not to mention their name incase they arent happy, and im not sure what to do
Karen

PollyPoppet

PollyPoppet Report 25 Aug 2009 23:11

hi karen i take it the person you were after is still alive did you ask for the number or did they just give you it

Julie

Julie Report 25 Aug 2009 23:15

But surely they must have realised the someone will ask you where did you get their number from

If it was me i wouldn't ring it, cos truthfully that person shouldn't have giving it out.

But if i did ring it, trust me im telling ( if asked) who gave it to me lol

SueMaid

SueMaid Report 25 Aug 2009 23:16

That was a complete invasion of privacy to hand you a phone number and it puts you in such a diffcult position.

Sue xx

Karen

Karen Report 25 Aug 2009 23:18

hi sorry took long for me to reply but had to reboot!
I didnt ask for the number the person just gave it me, and if i did ring then i would tell cause they are going to want to know who gave it me
karen

Karen

Karen Report 25 Aug 2009 23:23

I dont think I will ring the number because it wouldnt feel right, i thought they would just tell the person i had contacted them
Karen

Liz 47

Liz 47 Report 25 Aug 2009 23:29

Could you ask the member who gave you the number, to ring them and ask if it is alright to pass their details on to you?
Liz

Researching:
Dad and Aunty Dolly with Grandad WW1

Karen

Karen Report 25 Aug 2009 23:31

I hadnt thought of that Liz, lol, good idea
karen

Liz 47

Liz 47 Report 25 Aug 2009 23:33

Good luck,
Liz

Researching:
Dad and Aunty Dolly with Grandad WW1

Karen

Karen Report 25 Aug 2009 23:36

thanks liz
karen

SueMaid

SueMaid Report 25 Aug 2009 23:38

That's a good idea, Liz. Good luck Karen - hope it works out.

Sue xx

Jill 2011 (aka Warrior Princess of Cilla!)

Jill 2011 (aka Warrior Princess of Cilla!) Report 25 Aug 2009 23:38

Do you think they've added that person to their tree and not had their permission to do so? Maybe that's why it would be awkward ...

Jill

Researching:
London: Faber, Haysey, Spicer ...

Karen

Karen Report 25 Aug 2009 23:41

thanks Sue
Im not sure Jill it could be, or i thought it might be something more personal,like a bad break up or something they know the person works shifts and told me when the best time to call was, so it sounds like they actually know the person
karen

Berona

Berona Report 25 Aug 2009 23:57

Don't you have the White Pages online? If your contact doesn't want to ring for you, as long as you have the name, you could get it from the white pages of their locality.

Karen

Karen Report 25 Aug 2009 23:58

Hi Mac
Yes i know the name of the person, the code is my hometown code, thats a good idea,
Karen

Karen

Karen Report 25 Aug 2009 23:59

Hi Berona
What are the White Pages? lol
Karen

Karen

Karen Report 26 Aug 2009 00:06

Mac just looked and it isnt in, so must be ex directory
karen

Karen

Karen Report 26 Aug 2009 00:13

Well im off to make hubbys buttys for tomorrow, hell be up at 3 am, nite all, take care, ill update this post when i decide what to do and let you know the outcome,
thanks for the advice
karen

Karen

Karen Report 26 Aug 2009 00:14

Yes Mac, no luck im afraid
karen

Karen

Karen Report 26 Aug 2009 00:17

lol Mac that what i thought, nite nite, sleep well
karen