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Just phoned and didnt

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Jane

Jane Report 27 Aug 2009 22:06

Maybe my B Sister will keep the letter I sent her and one day who knows she might decide to get in touch.I won't hold my breath though .

Treehunter

Treehunter Report 27 Aug 2009 21:53

That was good Gwyn we never know do we.

Will have to wait and see its maybe this daugther that may reply to me.

Can only give it a go.

We have to have the downs with the ups dont we?

Hazelx

Gwyn in Kent

Gwyn in Kent Report 27 Aug 2009 21:11

I agree that if you get a negative response then you have to respect that person's views
but
If you have no response at all, there is still hope.
Back in the days before general computer use for getting in touch, I wrote to a 2nd cousin who I'd never met, but I knew our parents had met each other.... No response.
We left it a year or so and when we came across family photos of his family visiting mine, we sent copies and a brief note saying we thought he'd maybe like to have the enclosed and told him the names of the people in the photo.... No response.

Out of the blue, about 7 years after the initial contact, I had a phone call from the man.
At the time of first contact and for a while afterwards, things were difficult in his immediate family, so the time just wasn't right for him.
I felt pleased that he had kept my letter all those years though, waiting for a better time to get in touch.

There's hope yet!

Gwyn

Treehunter

Treehunter Report 27 Aug 2009 20:54

Yes we dont know what went on and why it did.

I will leave it to her if she wants to get intouch.

I have and never will keep on at them, as its not fare to them or me.

But i know a mate who done that. I said just give up. its not worth carrying on if they dont want to know you can make them.So did give up in the end and has never done it again.

Will go onto the next lot to see what i find.

Hazelx

Jane

Jane Report 27 Aug 2009 20:47

I have the same thing.I found my Birth family ,but my OH and kids don't really want to know.Also a B Sister ,have had no reply from.People have their reasons so don't be too upset by it.I think we have to respect other peoples reasons for not wanting to be in touch.Yes I agree that it is a pity,but this is life and we are all not the same.We just have to accept it sadly.

Treehunter

Treehunter Report 27 Aug 2009 20:44

Its the first time it has happen.Have been intouch with another part of his family line as she is very nice and was pleased i phone and has filled me in alot of gaps and sent me photos.

He didnt sound very friendly.Bet he rules the house.Sounds that type.

Oh you win some you lose some.

Hazelx

PollyPoppet

PollyPoppet Report 27 Aug 2009 20:40

hi yes it is a pity but his loss dont let it get you down at least you tried

Treehunter

Treehunter Report 27 Aug 2009 20:29

Just phoned a rellie and he didnt want to know.

Its a pity some are like that isnt it?

I have the address of one of his daugthers so may try writing to her.

Hazelx