General Chat

Thanks Stray, I suppose there is also the thought in the back of my mind, that having no grandparents on my side, time is running out for him to know grandparents on that side.... lol see what spending time on family tree does for you. makes you aware that you might have liked to know the people you never met ( I only met my maternal grandmother) !

Hi,It can be difficult to comment,as it's not known why you would want to make contact...after 14 year's.

Doe's your son,want contact ?Is your son curious,about his father ?

i think if im honest and its been that long id leave well alone till your son asks for him to be invlved
he may never want to see him
but if he did id allow it but i wouldnt push it
he may reject your son at an age were he is quiet vunrable and at a very important stage of his education "which could be dramatically affected depending on how the "father" responds

My son's father has never been in touch with son
( that's nearly 14 years now) . I don't have any idea where he is living, but I do know ,from research, his parent's address, and also that his sister is on FR....

What are your opinions on making contact? I am debating sending a message to his sister on FR and haven't a clue how to phrase it .... what I would 'like' to say and what it would be 'sensible' to say are two different things really .

This has come to mind really as there was a similar situation on a thread recently. Part of me says leave well alone, the other part ( the bit which says all children should have access to both parents wherever possible) says it is time to do this if I am going to, before son is grown up...... I think he would be 'interested' but it hasn't got to a point of 'wanting to ' yet.

Rose xx