General Chat

Nov last year i posted a plea for help for my twins going to uni this year.You all sent me wonderful tips and advice Just Jean sent me 2 wonderful cook books.Thankyou all
On Monday we take and leave our Son at his uni .He is so excited and we are for him ,he has started to pack all his bits and we have been shopping I went way over the top on the shopping with tins and dry goods they wont need much before xmas :}
Than the following Monday our daughter leaves us as well to go to her uni . We are so proud of them and excited they are moving on in the right way but selfishly are really sad we will have an empty house.I have been very good at controlling my emotions so far.Im lucky i can get a little tearful and everyone understands My poor OH has to keep the stiff upper lip, for a very laid back man he has become a little moody lately!!!Just wanted to share as i know you good people will understand our proudness and sorrow.Thankyou all again for your advice in November

Maria, you will miss them both so much but have given them the grounding they need, hopefully you have taught them to be self sufficient and manage cooking, washing etc as well as studying and partying and that is the best you can do for them. The house will feel strange but why not take the chance to spend time with your husband doing new things, maybe go to somewhere new for a day out at the weekend now you don't have to worry about doing a family Sunday lunch, or take on something like an evening class together or two different ones to suit, on the same or different nights. You could even think about taking in a student who is only at a local college Monday to Friday or other things to fill your days so you don't get too sad.

I am sure the time will fly till they are home again and just think of all the exciting things they will have to tell you about, two away at once at different places will mean twice as much info coming through lol I bet they will miss each other a lot too, being twins. I wish them both the best of luck and a great future ahead of them.

Lizx

Thanks Purple
The are both really good cooks [They tell me often they had to learn as im so bad!!!}we have been very strict parents until they were 18. We had to know where they were and who they were with .we had turned the spare room into a den for them and their mates when they were 15 {who were always welcome and lovely bunch] When they turned 18 we took a very large step back and and agreed not to question them any more ,very hard for us and very strange for them. but thankfully they have both had enough respect for us to still let us know where they were going often just a short text saying night clubing!!! We are so thrilled for them that they are moving on and it will be great to redscover each other again .They are now 19 and more than ready to fly the nest.

Well done to you and your husband, Maria, for setting them on such a good path. Since you obviously made them very welcome, you probably haven't seen the last of their pals who will miss them too so might pop round to see you lol Make sure you keep the doors locked lol if they are used to walking in!!!!! Don't want them interrupting you and o.h. rediscovering each other lol

have fun, your pride is justified.
Lizxx

Hello, Marie, it will feel very srange being just the two of you, but you have a lovely opportunity for you both to begin to not only find each other again, but realise some of your dreams, sit down together and talk about some things you may like to do , places to go, I know when my girl left home , we adjusted quite quickly, and we had a great time, like being on holiday most of the time, you have a lot to be proud of , two wonderful well grounded children,
you have been and always will be excellent parents, It would be nice if you could give us updates now and again , either on here or by P.M. I for one would be most interested. and here if you get a need to chat....I wish them both the very best luck, and enjoyable life... take care...

Jean x

You must have done a great job, Maria. They obviously have the self-confidence and the courage to move onto the next stage of their lives. You've given them a good start.

Sue xx

The best advice must surely be to not have twins!

Best of luck to your twins.
I'm sure you've done a good job of preparing them well.

Two of mine went off at different times, but there was always another child living here, so I can only imagine how strange it will be for you.
The terms seem quite short though. They'll be back before you know it.!

Gwyn

OOH I bet you will feel very lost without them and the house will seem very empty.
Our daughter married at 18 and on her Wedding Day far from feeling happy I was overwhelmed with sadness that i was somehow losing my best friend as well We used to chide my Mum cos she always cried at weddings but my goodness I could understand why!!
We have to let them have their wings though

Thanks for your kind words .
We took him today and I was very good ,got him unpacked made up his bed had a bit of lunch and left him and I didnt cry till we were out of sight !!!!He text us this evening to say thanks and that it is awesome. Bless him. Off on a much needed holiday tommorow hopfully for a bit of sun.Love the post natal depression remark Im going to use that one a lot We are so proud of our two .Thanks so much for your support.
Just Jean I will keep you all up dated .They have both photocopyed their fav recipes from the two books you sent.Cornbeef hash is going with them both and has been practiced a lot. xx

Oh bless him, I bet he is having a few pangs tonight too but I am sure he will do fine, as will your daughter next week.
Enjoy your hols, where are you going? Will you be back in time to take your daughter?

Lizx