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I think I must be a 'boro girl then Joy...........when life throws me a tough time I deal with it as best I can and if I can't make it better I accept it as it is and get on with it.

No point moaning about things we can't change is there? :))

xx

well the boros say
this has happened that's happened
or we pick ourselves up and say tough

business as usual

I can't be bothered with the "poor me" people..........I find they are usually the ones with far less to deal with than the rest of us who make the best of a bad job and get on with life:))

"Poor me" translates to "look at me"..............and I have better things to do with my time.

The exception is someone with depression, that can make you feel as if the world is closing in around you and nothing will ever get better................been there myself so i know what it's like:(

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I just can't be doing with *poor me's* and those with victim or martyr syndrome..... life throws stuff at all of us, but as has been said, it is how we respond to it that makes or breaks us as a whole person. I have a sister and a neighbour with issues regarding taking responsibility for their own antisocial actions.

Usually, in my experience, the *poor me* has a tendency towards egotism (in the strictest sense) and a firm belief that their position is, or should be, at the centre of everyone elses life, total selfishness. There is also a group of people I would describe as *passive aggressive* they seem to acquiesce, but in reality, they actually manage to swing everything around to their own way because of their *poor little me* attitude, which uses other people's feelings of guilt and anger to get their own way!!

At one time I would go along with it and pussy-foot around them (the sister liked that cos she said I was non-judgemental) but not any more.. I will say something or take action now.

Love

Daff xxxxx with her half full glass xxxxxx

I believe that not only are we responsible for our own actions we are responsible for our own happiness. No point in blaming other people. I too have a relly who blames everyone for her unhappiness when it was her choices that have caused many of her problems. She got what she wished for and still isn't happy. Told me a number of years ago that she was going to be selfish and go for what she wanted - I said fine but you have to accept the consequences. She can't accept.

Sue xx

Well I'm one for believing that we are each responsible for our own actions, and our re-actions.

We all have choices. We can bemoan our situations and do nothing about it, blame others, etc etc, or we can get off our backsides (figuratively speaking) and do something about it.

If something bad happens to you, the outcome depends more on your reaction to it that the event itself. Sometimes it depends on your own personality, but mostly it depends on whether you can catch yourself thinking negatively and turn it round.

But it's OUR choice. Not someone else's. Therefore it's OUR responsibility.

I lose interest when that happens :-))))

but then I have a very short fuse!

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Anyone who has reason to feel hard done by and has a vent about is cool with me Flower.

It's the ones that blame other people needlessly that pee me off lol xx

I have every sympathy with people who have had piles of crap thrown at them, they can moan for as long as they like.

I don't ever do a poorme impression if I feel targetted I just do a s*dyou...lol

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Nooooooo mine is much worse.......trust me lol......he is a nightmare lol

I agree Berona........some of the mothers in the playground are worse than the children !!! The children seem to get over it much quicker too !!! xx

LOL, bet my BIL is tads times worse then yours. :))

Any way not ignoring you, just logging off

Night all :o) x

It can start from an early age - when one mother approaches another mother with a "your child pushed my child" story. The child forgets the incident because mother is fighting their battles for them - then when they get to be adults, they don't know how to fight their own battles, so someone else is given the blame.

Very true Joy x

Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.

Eleanor Roosevelt

How odd Suzy.......it's my BIL that's the poor me in this case too lol xx

Feeling hard done by is one thing Rose.......we all do that from time to time and that's perfectly ok imho......it's when it's taken a step further and the blame is levelled at people who really and truly have no real influence on your life that it becomes irritating xx

I have no time for poor me people. My bil is one of them :(

Poor me...I choose my friends badly.... poor me....I get 'taken for a ride'..... poor me...I have 'given too much' with no hope of 'return'.....

my fault? not necessarily entirely, but in part certainly.
but what I do about it? absolutely down to me.
If I have made a monumental mess then I had better learn from it hadn't I!


Rose xx

Evening Hayley me dear.

Just had to deal with a real life poor me and it don't half give me the hump lol xx

There not I am....hello Muffy even.....lmao

I'm coming across it more and more both online and in real life.

How far, in your opinion is somebody else responsible for your state of mind/happiness etc etc?

For me.......yes I can be upset with someone......act inappropriately etc but ultimately I am responsible for my actions regardless of what steered me to behave it that way originally..
Don't understand the concept of anyone else being to blame.....xx