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I'm sorry to hear of your sad loss Karen

I wondered the same thing when my nan passed away 6 months ago, she was my Nan, Mum and best friend in one, and i had to deal with my first house clearance as well as many other things.

I thought daily the grief would kill me too, but strangely the fact i could ensure everything was done the way she had wanted got me through the first wave of pain, so try and concentrate on doing the best you can for your Dad, looking after your Mum for him is one way. Don't bottle up your feelings, cry when it gets too much and talk about him lots.

I really feel for you, i know how much you are hurting, it may not be of much help but i am thinking of you xx

Just want to say thank you to those who've added after my last post.....thank you for your caring thoughts and words.

K x

Dear Karen,

So sorry to hear about your dad, my condolences to you, your mom and family. My dad died in 1960, i was only 3 years of age and my sister was 14 months old, although i don't remember him, i still miss him. My mom died when i was 27, i still miss her. You never stop missing them, but it does get easier. I will be thinking about you next Wednesday.

Take care
Paulene in Glossop

xx

Karen.

I am so sad for you loss.

Just go with the flow. What ever you are feeling right now is right. You need to cry, you need to talk, you need to laugh. Most of all, you need to do all three things. Your Dad has been a big thing in your life.... the love, the laughter and the friendship...... all in one great big parcel.... your Dad. He will always be with you.

You will find the strength from somewhere..... he will give it to you.

My thoughts are with you right now and in the months to come..

Load of love and hugs.

Libby xxx

Karen
You will be on auto pilot for a time and be putting your mum first. I know we all did when our Pop passed in 1975 .all of my siblings closed ranks to rally to Mum as we all felt she was first in the grief line cos her and dad had been married for 46 years and she had nursed dad in his last months.
I too felt it was all unreal and couldnt cry or let go as it couldnt possible be MY dad .
It does take time though and lots of tears and lovely memories to get to the place where you can remember and maybe be thankful that Dad is now in a better place cos his suffering is no longer.
Take it one day at a time and take time too to accept your own grief for your beloved Dad
Shirley

Thinking of you and your family at this sad time

{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}} for you and your mum.


Hazelx

So sorry for your loss
My condolences to you and your family x

Thank you, every one of you, for ALL your kind words, sympathy and sound advice, your PM's and support.

'....but for the kindness of strangers'. Aren't GR friends wonderful.

K

Karen, I am so sorry to read your news, please accept my condolences and also I send condolences to your Mum. It is a sad time for you and for your Mum. You are allowed to grieve, your Mum will expect you to be sad. You will get through it, somewhere you will find the reserve of strength that you need. I will keep you in my thoughts, especially on the day of the funeral.

Ann
Glos xx

Karen, I'm so sorry for your loss.

My condolences to you and your Family
God bless you all
Jenxx

Oh Karen,I know just what you mean.I am so sorry you have lost your Dad.
I don't know where the strength comes from ,but it does.You have so many things to cope with right now ,and worrying about your Mum.You will be on Auto Pilot right know .Just don't be too scared to talk about your Dad with your Mum.You are probably both frightened of upsetting eachother.It is good to cry together .You will get through this and come out the other end 'shattered'.But you will do it and be fine.My Dad passed away in 1987 aged 64 from Motor Neurone Disease.I felt I had to be the strong one and was ,but now although I still miss Dad terribly,I just remember the good times with him
I don't know what else to say other than I know just how you are feeling right now.
With love to you and your Mum and your family
Jane xx

So sorry Karen. Dads are very special aren't they?

Hopefully the vicar may be of help to you at this time.

God bless.

Condolences to you and your family, Karen.

Sheila x

So sorry to hear your sad news Karen.

Like so many of our members here, I too have lost my loved ones and I think of them every day.

Remember the happy times you had together and keep the memories in your heart,as they will always be part of you and can bring you comfort.

My sincere condolences to you and your family.
Mau (XX)

Karen
I am so sorry to read your sad news.
I agree with Kitty.....Give yourself time to grieve even though you want to be strong for your Mum. Getting through all the necessary arrangements will take much of your time at the moment, but perhaps there will be a quiet moment when you can 'let go' of your pent up feelings. Allowing yourself to do this helps, I think.
Your Dad and his memory will be forever with you.

Support your Mum, but be kind to yourself too.
My thoughts will be with you.

Gwyn

Karen, when all the formalities are over you will have time to grieve, but do not let it take over your life, I doubt if your Dad would want that. Go on living life for him and include him in your daily life. My Dad has been gone since 1970, and I still try to decide if he would think what I am doing is right.

Hi Karen,
im so sorry to hear your sad news ,
sending you and your family my condolences
Hazelx

I am very sorry Karen, having lost my own Dad I know how awful it must be for you.

Allow yourself time to grieve, being "strong" won't work forever, at some point you need to scream or cry for the precious father you have lost.

Tears are natures way of releasing the emotional pain, they are not a sign of weakness. ((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))) for you and your Mum and other family members at this horribly sad time.

xx

Please accept my sincere sympathies.

Yes, this is one of the hardest things you will ever do and one of the most painful.

You'll be wondering why are people carrying on as normal as if nothing has happened, don't they know what has happened to my Dad; of course they don't know, and life will never be the same again.
However, one day, even though it seems impossible right now, the pain WILL lose its intensity, I promise you that.

It hurts so much because he is your Dad; he loves you and you love him.

God bless you.