General Chat

yes *pauses*


i could do with some lust in my life lol *sighs*

Lol I agree with Blackrose.... a bit of both, lol!!

My brain isn't working well today, lol.... well, I think you need a good smattering of both to have lasting relationships..... if for some reason such as ill health, the spark goes even temporarily... the companionship is essential until health returns.

Love, real love, is a mixture of all of it, I think. Fireworks are great fun when they happen, but would be really exhausting if they were popping off all the time, don't you think?.... but the mug of cocoa when they finish, is also just as good ;¬))

Oh.... I first clapped eyes on him when I was 15.... in 1969, lol Fancied him like heck (lust, lol), started going out with him when I was 16, engaged 3 months later, married 16 months after that... very lustful, lol..... but even though we have totally different personalities... he is quiet, I am not, he likes Jimi Hendrix et al... I prefer Stevie Wonder... he likes classical... I don't, on the whole, we have jogged along quite well... very sparkly, but lots of companionship as well

He likes most films and tv, I don't, etc etc.

However, we agree on the basic fundamentals.... and we like and respect each other's differences as well as likenesses.....

Have I rambled again.... oh dear... off to find some sparkly bits, lolol!

Love

Daff xxxxx

I would have to say you need a bit of both. Its good to have some interests in common but sometimes its the differences and yes a bit of friction that make life interesting and if theres no lust well that makes him just a friend and we all need some lust in our lives. Weve been married 30 years in Jan and weve had our ups and downs because of some of our differences but we have many shared interests and yes the lust is still there although hes been so tired since my stroke in april its a bit depleted at moment and hes a bit frightened we might bring on another stroke!

I don't know whether he was Mr Lust, Mr Spark or Mr Right he is still there/here and is now Mr Where's my.
Besides he has a free bus pass etc now so doesn't cost as much on outings.
I guess we will just grow old gracefully, however, doddery we may get.

Cant beat a bit of

RAUNCH !!!!..with some conversation thrown in,:}}}

Well ...........


I've met

1. spark/lust only
2. spark + compatibility

and

3. compatibility only



and i'm still single ................ unqualified to answer me thinks pmsl

Sparks often fizzle and die quickly like fireworks but are amazing while they last. If you are very, very lucky you find someone who is sparky and a companion.

I was 17 when I met 'imself and it hasn't always been an easy journey for us but I wouldn't change a thing.

And I still love the fireworks.

Gwynne

Hmm - not thought about this before.
Must have gone for the 'spark' - unfortunately a few others did too!
We're still friends- probably moreso now than before - but I wasn't prepared to put up with his 'playing away' LOL
(BTW, I've met every woman he's had affairs with - even when he was married to No 2) LOL
Must be a bit weird for them.

Go for the spark and see how long it lasts. If it keeps going, forget Mr.Right - he's probably Mr.Wrong.

If the spark fades away - you can always rely on Mr.Right - but hey! not before you look around for another spark!

OH and I totally incompatible but still together after 31 years :-))

Must have been LUST!!!!!

xx

SPARK DEFO

I would prefer Mr Right rather than Mr spark, I like someone I can talk to and have the same interests as, and I know they say opposites attract but when the spark has gone out and that initial lust thing ends then your oposite can be very boring.

OH and I are not alike in many ways but we've learned to live with that. We went for "spark" - 37 years ago:-))

Sue xx

spark ;-)

Hi all

Yes i married for lust nothing in common whatsoever

We didn't have the same taste in music, films,football clubs we support,food we like, nothing

Oh and this christmas is our silver wedding anniversary its been rocky but fun, never a dull moment when you marry for lust!!!!!!!!!!!

That's true, Sheila:) OH and I are very different and with mostly very different interests but we have the spark and are compatible.

If someone has to ask then neither man is right

Compatibility wins! But who's to say you can't have both?

I have had a spark with someone who I was very tempted to take a risk with ....BUT THANKFULLY I put my sensible head back on and have stayed with my compatible OH (28 years) I could have messed things up big time.Phew!!!!!
It would have been exciting though lol.

Yes I know Uggers;-)))

He's passable isn't he Rose:-)

Sue xx