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Sorry to harp, but,as you are no doubt all sick of hearing, I had an abusive mother and could never articulate the problem until recently when I lighted upon the condition of Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

I have been there and can listen to anybody who is trying to understand a similar situation.There is also a thread full of similarly afflicted people that I can bring up should it help anybody.

it sounds like a very good idea in theory but in practise it has been done on here before and when people start airing their problems in public thats when the 'nasties' jump in. So I hope your thread is successful in helping some people but just be careful what personal details are printed.

1972 I WAS 5 MONTHS PREGNANT
THEY WOUKDNT LET ME SEE HER
JUNE TO DEC THAT YEAR 6 FAMILY MEMBERS DIED
1874 GRAN
1976 DAY BEFORE MUMS DATE MY DAD
4 DAYS BEFORE MY BIRTHDAY

Me too, I lost a son at 15 minutes of age, and my father 9 months later. I can still well up easily about my son, 35 years later, I miss my Dad terribly esp at christmas time, when he became the child in all of us LOL. having said that it took almost 15 years to chat easily about dad, but the moments are always there. my Mum died at 96 y/o and I miss her too but am much more accepting of the inevitability of her death, than of dad who died too soon,
I grieve over further diagnoses in my family, especially Autism, intellectual challenges, ADHD, anxiety & depression, and a sweet baby gt-nephew with Downs, but have to step back and take a deep breath and continue moving forward, always hoping for the little miracle.
When my daughter was diagnosed with epilepsy at age 5 the wind was knocked out of my sails, until I realised, that though this was a life-sentence in a way, it was not life-threatening as a brain tumour would have been, and we could handle it. She has since gone from 30+ seizures a day to seizure-free, has 4 children, and that's another story for another time.
Bless you all, whatever your cross to bear, there is light at the end of your tunnel, we can walk together . . . .
Hugs
Mary

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Thinking of all those who have lost a child, I know that the pain never leaves us, bless you allxx..

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I SPOKE TO CAROL AND TOLD HER HER YOUR WORRIED
SHE CAN PHONE ANYTIME
IM NOT GOING OUT TONIGHT

Hi Annina i read it too bless
click on her name on her thread and you will be able to pm her x

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Hi Elizabeth,Carol edited her reply,but I did read it,I am really worried,she sounded so depressed and has not replied.

Is there a way that I can PM her through your thread??

Love Nina from sunny Sheffield.

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What a great idea Elizabeth I agree with what everybody has said, I hope that your threat takes off. After I lost my husband I was never the same it was like losing my right arm, you go through the greaving and come out the other side, but life is never the same again.

lynn xx

ANNINA,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,HEARTBREAKING
AND CAROL, I DID TELL THEM WHEN SOME SAYING YOU SHOULD BE GETTING BETTER
YOU WILL NEVER BE THE SAME AS BEFORE,BUT YOU KNOW
IM THERE AT THE END OF THE PHONE,MESSY OR IN THE CAFE DRINKING COFFEE,AND SOMTIMES YOU RESCUE ME

Carol,you must have posted along with me.

I too have lost two children,Rebecca was only 2wks and would have been 40 last september.
Today.is my younger daughter Shani's birthday,and tragically,her brother commited suicide on her birthday 17 yrs ago.

Do not listen to unfeeling folk who expect you to get over losing a child,ever.
The truth is,you never do,but,you will get used to living with the pain,give yourself permission to grieve for as long as needed.I also suffer periods of unbearable depression,so bought that t shirt,please feel free to pm me anytime you need an understanding ear. Love and hugs,Nina from Sheffield xxxxxxxxxx

Elizabeth,this is a wonderful idea,sometimes it is easier to thrash out your worries,shall we say anonimously,rather than with strangers.

There must be a wealth of wisdom being wasted between us,I have age on my side. Brought up a large family,buried two,divorced and remarried...........

And that is just me.......Nina from Sheffield.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL.