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I dont know if anyone else has had sooo much conflict dealing with teenagers(girls)my daughter is tuning16yrs tomorrow.She is still at school and has a boyfriend!She can't wait to leave home and play house?? Why cant they just enjoy the moment,why do they feel they need to rush things,now she informs me that she wants to get engaged!No way,I say.But our Aust,law says when a kid turns 16 they can do what they like!! and the parent can not stop them.We the parents who raise our children,love them,pay for everything,try to teach them how to be a good person,Now has lost any rights.No wonder the kids of today think the world owes them.And if they get into trouble,we are then responsible.Iam angry,the saying it takes a villiage to raise a child,(true)but boy.It only takes toogooders to destroy us.

Well- at least she still cant married until she is 18.


xxxxx mick

Thats true Mick,18 is the magic age,Just look at the drivers at that age? You just have to watch the news,Everything has to be Now,big and fast.Whats the rush,its like do it now or miss out on life.(shaking my head).Growing up is hard,but we need some balance.These kids are our future,and THEIR RIGHTS are being taught in primary school,but what about our rights as a parent.Was it that bad when we were young that there had to be change? Bring back 21yrs to be classed as an adult.It didnt hurt me,what about you Mick.

TRY A SIX YEAR OLD GRANDDAUGHTER WHOS VOLCABULARY
IS
"NAN IM IN SUCH A PREDICAMENT TWO PARTYS ON THE
SAME DAY YOU DONT KNOW THE PROBLEM ITS CAUSING ME"

ASKED HOW DO YOU KNOW PREDICAMENT

I READ A WORD A DAY FROM THE DICTIONARY


EVEN HER MUM DIDNT KNOW.....HELP

Dizzi if your grandaughter is getting stressed over 2 partys on the same day at the age of 6yrs.Then you better buckle up for the ride of your life when she hit her teens.(lol)We can always say there is never a dull moment.

As far as I know, in England & Wales at any rate, you could leave home at 16, get engaged etc., for at least the past 50 years

I remember a couple of girls at school sporting engagement rings when they were about 14 (1970's). Nobody, I knew actually left home when they were 16, probably because there was that little matter of paying the rent!

Fiona,It would be interesting to know if those girls who got engaged at that age ever got married?When you think of what kids have today,Private schools,overseas trips,nice home ,good and loving family,WHY I dont get it,its doing my head in!

We bring our kids up to be decent independent citizens surely? And that's what they are trying to become.

We have to let go at some point, they won't stay at home forever.


PS I was engaged just before my 17th birthday, married at 18.

they never stop being our kids..

the problems they have just change as they get older...lol

Goldilocks, can you not remember being 16, how everything is black and white, how you can fall in love (for ever)?

I met my lovely OH when I was 15 and we have been married for almost 50 years. It is not up to us to tell them that they can't last together, it is up to them to find out. I guess that she wont leave home as she wont have the finance to do so, but give her some sympathy over her relationship, maybe treat her more as an adult and she will behave like one. Suggest that she should wait a few months before getting engaged but that they can make a verbal promise now and buy a ring later, when they have saved for it. Is the boyfriend older?

I know in my head you are right,but my heart??As a parent you dont want your kids to get hurt,I know its all part of growing up,but she split with him only for 2 weeks and she wanted to end her life.He is 6mths younger,and we all know that girls mature faster then boys.Iam affraid she will outgrow him!But as you have reminded me at that age(they know) so I guess its going to be a wait and see what happens.Iam glad to hear that some of you have succes in young love. Iam trying, to be a cool mother,but when you have friends telling you that. I WOULDNT LET MY DAUGHTER DO THAT it makes you feel like a failure.

my hubbys 56 and is still a big kid lol

Goldielocks, don't worry about what people say, do what you feel is right for your daughter, as long as she is safe let her learn by her mistakes. It always hurts to see them hurt and we want to protect them but if she wont be protected she will learn to deal with the hurt.

I remember my mother use to say- You can't put an old head on young shoulders! How true. Its funny how you start to remember the old sayings your parents use to say at times isn't it.

I do remember also that growing up in my teens felt restricting,but I would never of spoken to my parents the way kids do today,WE may have felt like saying it but didn't 1.Because of fear,of getting a backhand.2.You still had respect. There is no fear today,I dont know if its a good thing or not. But a saying, Kids should be seen and not heard,was said alot when I was growing up,but today there seems to be no barrier.Is this what they call freedom.?