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I do think that there is a difference between accepting something is over and getting on with life ... ( that doesn't preclude still loving the person , just means you have faced it and know that you have to do other things)... and 'being 'over' someone'... in terms of moving on to someone else...

Ah Rose, well in that case, I'll use Mum as an example again. She was broken hearted when my dad found another woman, worse her best friend. She was humiliated when she realised everyone else knew about it, but not her. She was hurt when it all turned violent, and she attempted suicide a couple of times.....but then she picked herself up, dusted herself down and got on with it, once the divorce came through.

It's sometimes down to a state of mind, whether or not you can accept and come to terms with what has happened. And as Kay said, self-confidence is a big part of this. If that has been knocked badly it could take a long time to get it back...but if you can realise that not all, if any, of the blame falls on your shoulders, and keep your self esteem, then you are likely to get it together sooner.

Stop being so clever TW.....tis 'cos'....no other reason :-)))

Love's a funny old thing....but I have always found that the old rose coloured spectacles are more of a 'reality' than we think....just look back on a few relationships ( Mostly oldies that is )....nothing is the same as when one first thought it was ( I could write a book lol )


EDIT: actually...I will go along with the bereavement stuff......there are only so many feelings and bereavement is akin to many of them

I dont' agree with that Annina. When my stepfather died, my mum was a broken woman, but she's the sort to pick herself up, brush herself down and get on with it. Within four months, she was off travelling through Italy on her own.

She loved my stepfather deeply, just because she wasn't wearing widows blacks for years after doesn't mean she didn't. What it does mean is that she got on with life.

I've always considered bereavement as different really Teresa... because although the person has gone, you haven't lost the feeling that they love you and vice versa... but I yes we do all take things differently
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Self confidence and acceptance to get on with life.....memories aint no good clinging to when they aint moving you forward........

part of our make-up i think.my mate could fall in love one day and dump the guy the next.amazing

I would have thought, that if they get over it quickly, then they were not all that in love to start with.

Or, they are really fickle people, who arn't capable of deep feelings.

The same as the length of time the deep grief of bereavement period is different. Some are able to come to terms with things faster than others. We're all different, and react in different ways to the same situation.

life's unanswerables ( to me anyway) .

How come some people thwarted in love, get over it really quickly and move on to someone else ...and others don't lol.

No definitive answers expected...i am just in one of my 'random thoughts' moods tonight ;)

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