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I tried to have it amended(certificate) but only the next of kin can make any changes.They had 2 boys who will out live me so I have buckleys.

I wonder if you could get that changed. Try contacting the registrar, they may be able to help there, especially if you have certificates to prove his previous life. You can then get a proper certificate done which WILL be useful to future generations, HIS future generations.

Stand up to her my love, he was your dad, you do have rights, and there's nowt she can do about it. She can't wipe away his previous life, she doesn't have the right to do that.

I think I was the death certificate that was the final straw.She knew I was doing family research,because my Dad was helping me with information.On the certificate she has put unknown on everything to do with his life before her! She could of phoned me if she didn't know.How nasty is that.I was never a threat to her,never interfeared.But now I have this certificate which has worthless information for any other person wanting to do research..

I think that as it happened in 2008 I'd have stated my case to those involved long before now,and made it plain that I was not going to be erased out of my dads life either alive or in death...

Not knowing all the details of your relationship with your stepmother prior to the death of your Father, it is difficult to say if the delay in contacting you & asking that you did not attend the funeral was deliberately meant to hurt you.
It was harsh, not being able to say that final goodbye, but it may not have been meant to hurt you. It may have been that your Father was trying to protect you, in his mind.
Those phone calls to close relatives are very hard; I know that from when having to call my own sibling who lives abroad.
This does not mean that I think your stepmother was right in leaving it so long before contacting you, or including you in the funeral arrangements.

Its the same,I phoned to tell her that if I wasn't to be there than I was sending flowers,she was even against that,but I did.A big bunch of colourful flowers with 1 pink Rose..Never even got a thankyou.Even if she chucked them in the bin,She will always remember.

I'd ask to see that wish in writing. It sounds like your stepmother is cutting herself off from you,

Mine hasn't contacted me once since my Dad died...though she was ok with the funeral and everything, my half sister made sure of that...but since then not a word. I'm from his past life, before she came along, and I think that's always been on her mind.

Go visit his grave and place some flowers for him. She can't stop you. xx

My father passed away back in 2008,and my stepmother phoned me 8 hours after he died, to inform me,(I live with my family 1200km away.)I always visit my Dad when I could and phoned on special days,I always thought we had a reasonable relationship,But I was told that I was not to attend his funeral! It was his wish?I didn't out of respect for him,but feel I have been forgotten,as a daughter.What would you do?