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Did I ever tell you:-

That when my father died (in 1984) the thing I felt most guilty about was having reduced him to tears some 10 years before when I was a stroppy teenager and that I had never really properly apologised for.

That when I left my husband the thing that I was most grateful for was that I just had the one child to worry about, and the thing that I regretted most was that I just had the one child to worry about. That child (my son) has said several times over the years that he had always wanted brothers and sisters.

That when I went on "holiday" last year to Belgium to do the "All Quiet on the Western Front" tour, following in the footsteps of OH's grandfather in WW1, the abiding memory is the graveyards - the young wannabe heroes - the "wall of white" as someone described it. Walking through Tyne Cot cemetry (for the second time) and reading on the gravestones "age 19" "age 18" "age 22" and on and on and on. And coming home from that "holiday" to read of Katie Wossname's latest spat with Peter Andre and thinking ... so what?

And here, on this Chat board, on this website, we have these arguments about who said what last week, last year, five years ago ... and really - how important is it? Be honest - does it matter?

I know what matters to me. I know what makes me cry - and it's not you lot. None of you.

Don't take umbrage! 99% of you are great people. I have met a few of you and would like to meet more of you and I love chatting to you on here ... but ... when I come on here I want to have a laugh, have some fun, forget about the things that make me want to cry ...

So please people - lighten up - it is just a website.

Jill

Ah but the rugby was good Jill :-)

Well said, wise words indeed.

Hi Grumps, I agree with you,after burying two of my offspring,I know that there are better things to worry about than some of the spiteful things done on here.

As for feeling guilty about your Dad,don't beat yourself up about that,it is part of being a parent, dealing with hateful teenagers,my lot have all informed me how much they hate me at one time or another, and I certainly don't hold it against them.

In fact, I have to smile to myself, because they all tell me that they are having the same trouble with THEIR teenagers!

Take care, how is your crowshitting coming along?? Love Nina.

LOL Nina.

I know. It's odd though that of all the things that bothered me when dad died, it was that!

And I know - and always knew - that he loved me. And that's what matters.

Jill

Nina, I have been scratching my head over that word beginning crow. Are you saying Jill has been hitting crows? Or has she been making a crow s***? Or perhaps she has been crochetting.

Huia (aka The Old Crow!)

Ah Mrs G, I made my Dad cry once..when I left home:-) The words 'lighten up' seem to be a cliche but really that is good advice. The short sharp spats on here, WHAM! BANG! SNIPE!..are sometimes amusing to read. But then there are the personal insults which go on and on and their friends join in and go on and on. And that is where 'perspective' is lost. I read and join in Chat (occasionally) to be amused or even to learn something I didn't know about. Personally, I believe that scoring points on a genealogy website is a rather immature way to behave, and so very boring for the people reading it. BC XX

the memories that make me cry are about my father..i can't remember ever telling him i loved him and we too fell out.

Some of the people who come on the chat rooms have forgotten that there is life outside GR....

have I missed something...

Nothing remotely interesting, Hayley.

Jill, you're quite right of course - none of it matters much at all in the grand scheme of our lives. Although I think it can sometimes feel like it does when we feel we are being criticised or whatever, I don't think many of us would ever put GR and its goings on in our top 100 of things that count in life:)

I do Uggers.....think that some think its very real and mega important but I am not one of them...I feel a little woozy this morning so no shouting plz lol

Good morning
Like most folk I also have sad memories of things that I should or shouldn't have said and have to live wih my regrets.
I think I have learned from happenings in my past to make me more aware of peoples' feelings and think before I speak!

I understand some folk on GR have grievances against one another, and they hurt, but why oh why don't they just stay away from their threads or even shut down the computer..............give yourselves peace of mind and don't let words on a screen fester!

Like BC I like to have fun when on here,but last night was abysmal.

Have a peaceful day everybody
Mau (XX)

Ms Huia, of course I meant crocheting, I put on another thread some time ago, that my ever so posh mother used to cringe because I used to tell people that I had been learning to crowshit.

I couldn't pronounce the correct word, and had no idea what I wes saying was considered Rude.

Thanks for that Nina, I thought it had to be that. Some of our family sayings can be perplexing to other people. And I can just imagine your mother cringing. My grandfather made his wife embarrassed when he pointed to some gumboots in a shop and said something about them, but he got the g and b the wrong way around. As she had a hearing problem I presume he wasnt exactly whispering.

Huia.

Huia, thanks for that, I will never be able to say bumgoots properly again.

Another word that I can't for the life of me is minellium,sorry, minelliem,Minellium...........sod it, I can't even type it.

Anyone else got any hilarious spoonerisms,lets cheer up the boards.