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if somebody drunk half a bottle of brandy every night,sometimes added a couple of vodka's , if this was a constant partern every night for nine month's.. are they an ancoholic?? and when you question them about it they totally denie it? iam confussed.. so i thought i would ask you nice peep's lynn x

Hi Lynn...they may not be an alcoholic as in alcohol dependant, but there is another term, which is probably much more accurate, and that is an alcohol abuser...this group can often give up, are not physically addicted (yet) but for what ever reason, feel they need to consume large amounts. Love Daff xx

Its a lot to drink, well over the recommended 'points' advice. I suppose the question is if they have control over it...if they could actually stop drinking as and when they choose. But Im no expert on that field! Theres a helpline for families/friends of people who drink, they might be of some help.

AL ANON: 020 7403 0888

thank's Daff, its such a confussing situation, lynn x

This is a very difficult one Lynn, I will Pm you as I have often been perplexed by ther definitions and guidelines too, Caz xxx

One thought Lynn, Does this person have a Problem that they think they can 'Blot Out' by drinking this amount?. Hal.

hi no just habbit... great person without drink lynn x

hi las,i think i would say yes they have a problem.but it is an illness hun.hugsxxxx

No one here could ever give you the answer that seek My Lady. For such indulgence hath so many causes ..................... and so many aims. If you are truely concerned , then there is so much better help out there that you could ever hope for upon this Board. You have not mentioned the age of your friend ................ maybe some of us would not feel too discerning if we knew a little more.

my friend's 45 yrs old lynn x

Then he needs far more specialised help than many of us could offer by our past experience.

If the person denies it, I'd say there's a problem. You could try contacting Al-Anon, which gives help and advice to the families of problem drinkers: http://www.al-anonuk.org.uk/

thank you for all your help and advice (((((((((((((hugs to you all))))))))))))))))) lynn x

But I fear that we have said no more than you already expected !

i have had some lovely helpful pm's, thank you lynn x

Having known one rather well at one time and he was a charmer outside of drink (so many are) this man has a problem - if not an alcoholic well on the way especailly if he denies it - and unfortunately until he does everyone else is on a hiding to nowhere. You can ring the AA and someone will talk to you and answer your questions. Al-Anon is a support group for the families of Alcoholics.