General Chat

I have 3 grown up step 'kids' and I get on well enough with them, although we don't see them very often. Had some problems with middle one over the last couple of years. I am fond of them but it doesn't really go further than that.

Caz, me n you in the same boat here . Ex OH has so many kids , my son has so many step brothers and sisters . They have chosen to talk to my son but not my ex . Sons loyalty is with his Dad. Nightmare !!! Kim xxx

i think children in any family no matter what the set up should be treated as special children are a gift no matter who or were their from no matter how hard it can be at times and they need cherishing every moment coz you never no what tomorow is going to bring stray xxxxx

Awwww Joy, huge prob area for me, me and OH both been married before, Long, long, story!!! Caz xxxx

HMMMMMMM thats a tricky one teresa.looks like he broke the rules then ehxx

teresa, my son and ex dont let grandaughter call anyone else mum or dad.they both share her.and niether would like that.my sons partner is fine with this,as she says she has a mum,she dont need two mums.but but she is grandaughters special friend.again this works.x maid marion,thats a nice set up.glad its been goodxxx

I am a step-mum to two girls, aged 16 & 19.The 19 year old lives with us. I get on well with them and would do anything I could to help them. I am their step-mum, but they only have one mum, ie their real Mum. i could never replace her, wouldn't try, wouldn't want to. I am their friend more importantly. Yes, you should try to get on with your step-kids, but it also depends on if they are willing to get on with you. It's like any relationship, there has to be the will to want to get on.If my step-daughters did anything to hurt me, I'd forgive them as I would my own kids. At the end of the day, they're my OH's flesh and blood and I accepted them when we got together, ie they were part & parcel of everything. Being a step-parent isn't always easy!

i love my step kids wonderful they are i never tried to be their mum never tried to compete with their mum just took it a day at a time i always stepped back let them spend time with their dad to bond things where hard at first but now its easy maybe i have been lucky i have all the fun and no pain giving birth to them

Yes its important, step families have there problems to begin with. with the loss of a parent through death/divorce whatever, so these children don't need any more problems. Ann x

hi maid marion,thats really nice.do both dads get on? my mate has this situation,and i must admit she has so much patience.her step kids can be very testing,but her and hubby have a good way of dealing with it. its up to him to disipline them not her,and if she has a prob ,he will sort it.not leave it to get worse. any upsets and she says sort it with dad.lol.she never interfers.and his rules go.but you know what ....it works.xx

aww bless him he said soz.........now i feel guilty.........YOU SHOUT IF YA WANT TO HUN.LOLXXXX

It is important. It is often very difficult, but you have to try. You cannot be expected to love them (although that may grow) but you have to try and like them or there will be no family at all. Deanna X

hoff stop shouting,lol

sorry

THINK ITS IMPORTANT TO HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH EVERYBODY IF YOU CAN

IS IT IMPORTANT TO HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR STEPKIDS.