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I feel for you Pauline, and I am glad you finally have a photograph of Graham. I hope his smile will stay with you for always and at difficult times you can remember it and be thankful that he had a little life and you will meet again one day. Liz I have a brother with the same name who is 5 years younger than me, and he never bothers to make contact, too busy making loads of money altho no children to succeed him. I also have another younger brother who is a workaholic and doesn't stay in touch. I also had an older brother Richard who was stillborn and I have no photographs obviously. I am not sure where his body was buried, as Mum told me years ago that the midwife told Dad to bury him in the garden, which was at my Nan's house. My Nan wasn't very kind to Mum at the time of their sad loss, so my parents moved back to Mum's home city where I still live. Rest in Peace, our little lost brothers and sisters, one day we will be together again.

Thank you for all your kind thoughts. I'm going to scan the photo and add to my Tribal Pages website tomorrow. Now there will be a little smiling face there instead of a blank box. A real person at last. I hope after a nights sleep I will feel less sad tomorrow. His MI is as follows Treasured memories of Graham Robert, Much loved son of Bob & Lorraine Bennett, died February 9th 1958, age 3. A Flower in God's garden' Rest in peace Graham. Until we meet again. Your loving sister, Pauline

No its not silly,,I felt a similar way when I finally saw a photo of my gr gran......mourning what I never knew,,,,,,or didnt have. the more you try to remember the less you will......it will just come out the blue and some little thing will jump back that you'll remember,,..

I think it is quite natural for you to feel the loss of your brother Pauline....after all, how many of us cry when we find a relative has died in tragic circumstances - long before we were born.... ..even more so for a family member within our own lifetime.....you are mourning the loss of the relationship you would have had with this brother, and the fact that he did not have time to enjoy his life here.......I do feel for you, it is a very real loss you are feeling......in no way soppy or sentimental.....x

PP a massive hug for you, you are reacting in a perfectly normal way, time does not make something less important, My OH brother died in 1968 in a motorbike accident, Graeme my OH was 5 his bro was 17, it is still affecting my OH now, Love to you Caz xxxx

Not silly-it is called LOVE-bless you-know just how you feel.

Pauline, my parents lost their first child, a boy, before I was born. When my Dad was ill he started to talk about him and saying that he would soon be with him. When Dad died and we put a notice in the paper we included my brother and when we placed a plaque on Dad's resting place his name was put on that with the rest of us. I realised that it brought home my parent's loss and also ours. You certainly aren't silly and you can certainly have a hug. Susan

no hun its not silly,you have lost a brother.xxx

Pauline,I think its putting a face to his name.I never knew my nan and grandad.Nan died 19 years before i was born and grandad 7 years.I had never seen a photo of them until 2 years ago.Mum could not remember them either as she was only 3 when her mum died and was adopted.When we saw the photos we were so sad.Annie

(((((((((hugs)))))))))) Cherish that photo of him. Please don't be so sad although it's understandable. Take care x lesley

NO that does not sound silly at all. It doesn't matter how long it is. I also had a brother who died. He died 8 years before I was born. So i never knew him. About 2 years ago and went to find his grave only to find that he did not have one or should I say he has no grave stone. It was very sad. I was very shocked to find that he does not have a stone or anything to show were he is buried. Although I know where the plot is, it is as if he was never here. He was only 11 weeks old when he died and we have no pictures at all. He died in 1962 and my father only talked about it for the first time 2 years ago. Grief hits people at different times. You were only little when you lost him, so it makes sense that seeing the pictures would bring back the sad feelings of lose. I am sending you a big hug. With kind regards Donna

No Pauline, it is NOT silly! *wags stern finger* Seriously, my opinion is that it's never too late to grieve, be it 50 minutes or 50 years. My only other thought is that Graham's in a lovely place, waiting for you all eventually, but now and then popping down to see you. x

No, it's not silly at all. You must have been devasted when your brother died. A big hug ((((xx))))

I have always known that I had a little brother who died age 3 in 1958. His name was Graham Robert Bennett. When he died I was only 7, and although I have tried, I cannot remember him visually, which I find so frustrating. Today, I have been to see my Mum, and she has found quite a lot of old photos, including some of Graham aged 2. Having seen these it has suddenly brought home the loss to the family. I almost feel that I am in mourning for him. Does this sound silly? It is after all nearly 50 years ago. Need a hug please. PP xx