General Chat

According to Telegraph today the numbers of over 60s divorcing is rising dramatically. Why? Surely if you have reached those years you must be reasonably compatable - or is it - one thinks I am not going to be miserable any more for what years I have left - or are these people who missed the midlife crisis and are catching up? This morning OH and I were having a mild sparing match (verbal) when son who stayed over made a remark about over 60s divorcing - I told him to mind his own business and not to interfere and back up his father when he waved the Telegraph at me and said I am only quoting - all three fell about laughing! Being serious I find it sad that one feels the need to divorce at that stage in life.

The couple over the back divorced last october just before she was 60 as she could not face retirement with him.They could not sell the house so they both stayed put.He got very ill and she nursed him.He died 3 weeks ago.She is so sad now. Annie

Ah well, I have a little ray of hope for you! I bumped into an old friend today - have not seen her for 7 years. Last time I saw her, she was devastated, utterly devastated, that her husband of 39 years (aged 70) had left her for another woman, with whom he had been having an affair for years - unbeknown to my friend. Today she told me that she had met someone else a few years back but that it had not worked out - and she and her husband are back together again! So - better the devil you know and all that... OC

They have probally been waiting till all the children are off their hands and settled,then thought right,you misrable s--- I've put up with you long enough,now for some fun and new lease of life,)))----.behind closed doors and all that,,,,,,,, ,Plus they may just want to have a share of the cash to spend as they like, and do a Shirley Valentine,or a want to become someones sugar daddy,????

That is a sad story.

My husband is content with his lot because I tell him so - what more could a man desire, I let him play golf at least twice a week sometimes more, allow him to play with 2 allotments, wash the kitchen floor (and today I bought him a mop cos he said he had a sore knee) and I also purchased him 6 bottles of wine and a bottle of whiskey. He has never had it so good. I feel so sad that when life should be enjoyed people are going through the terrible heartache and expense of a divorce.

It is a sad fact, but true! I say the same thing, after 46 yrs of marriage, who has the energy to train another one? Not me! lol! I will keep my old Italian stud even if we argue (we always did anyway!) The grass is definetely not greener on the other side! CeeCee

A couple of friends of mine in their early 60s have each divorced their partners mostly for the reasons David gave. I think you get to 60ish and suddenly realise if you don't do something now you never will. One friend met up again with her teenage love, both realised they still had feelings for each other, divorced their respective partners and are now very happy together. As someone (fast) approaching 60 I think I can understand, although like Carol says, it's taken me 43 years to train my husband and I couldn't be bothered to do it again! LOL Better the devil you know..........and all that! It can be very difficult to adjust your lives when you suddenly are together 24/7 after being apart working for most of the day. The children have flown, and mostly have lives and families of their own, sometimes miles away from the parental home, and it can be very hard to find something that interests both of you. You find you have nothing in common any more (if you ever did!) and nothing to talk about. He spends his days in front of the TV, watching programmes that have no interest to you and you spend your time chatting to cyber friends on the PC (who me? LOLOL) which doesn't interest him at all. You both have to make an effort and, in effect, 'discover' each other again. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't, which is why I think the grass appears greener on the other side to some 'baby boomers', who after all grew up in the 60's and were the first generation to think they could have it all. Right, off to drag OH into the garden to mow the grass. He can't sit in front of the TV all day today, I've got too much for him to do whilst I sit here chatting! LOL Sue xx

My husband and I separated after 40 years of marriage and I can say in all honesty I am once again enjoying my life. From a purely selfish point of view I can do exactly as I please, go where I want and don't have pander to his whims any longer. Absolute heaven. Why should unhappy couples stay together whatever their age? For as many years as I have left I want to put me first after years of being so way down on the list that I wasn't even consulted. Power to the Golden Oldies I say :))) Jean x.