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Jill,If your dad goes into sheltered housing he will still need a carer which they do not provide.We provide support (help with all forms,calling ambulances etc)We also provide a hot meal at mid day.Social Services should provide the carer. annie

Hello Lin, Annie and Sue Thank you for your replies, I will take my Dad to the Doctors and get a letter, I don't know if the Council do priority medical but I will find out. I will also contact a Social Worker and get them to come around. Jennifer I will keep everyone updated, but I don't suppose I will have any news for a while. Ron Thank you for that yes Dad was in the Royal Navy WW11 and Army afterwards. I will contact the SSAFA after the Doctor and Social Worker and see what they have to say to help us. Thank you all again you have been wonderful and so supportive. Sorry I haven't got back to you all sooner, but it is difficult to get back on the computer sometimes. Kindest Regards Jill

If he's ex Services (and probably is due his age) why not contact your local office of SSAFA to see if they can advise/help. But if you do PLEASE make sure you tell them of everything you've done to try to fix a place for him - this avoids 'crossed wires' and different organisations being at odds with one another. SSAFA liaise with lots of other charitable trusts. Hope this helps. Ron

Hello Jill - hope you get something sorted for your dad, bless him, he's so lucky to have you:o)))) jude sarf wales xx

Please keep us updated of how you are doing-and best of british luck to you.

Jill. Take your Dad to his Doctor's and ask the doc for the letter for his health problems and ask the doctor to put in it that your Dad needs to move for support from you. Then take a photocopy of the letter and take the original to the council and ask for a Prority medical form,(if they have them.)Fill the form in and ask for a visit from the medical visitor team for your Dad at his home. This should get him on the list for a priority move to be nearer you and your family. Hope this helps Suexxxxx

You must involve his doctor and social workers.I must admit ss are not very fast.I work in sheltered housing for the frail and elderly and we do have a waiting list,so best to get the ball rolling now.Good Luck Annie

Hi Jill sorry to hear of your situation. Totally agree you most definitely need to get a Social worker involved. Not only because of your Dads situation but also because you have health problems. I really hope you can get the help you need. Lin xx

Hello Jennifer Thank you for your reply. I will get a Social Worker involved and take Dad to his Doctor to get a letter from him. I don't know if my Dad is up to this though, when I put on the Housing Application Form about the boys outside his house he didn't like it. I don't think he wants to be any trouble, but I think I will have to make him see that we have to push in order for him to be near me. Thanks once again. Regards Jill

You really do need help. Get his GP to write to the housing people you have applied to. A Social Worker can also help to speed things up. This happened to my Dad and by the time we got it sorted it was two late, he had alzeimers-so keep pushing so your Dad can be near you and enjoy the special times with you and yours. But be warned, if he is in a Care enviroment he will have to sell his house to finance this, which I think is terrible, as he would have worked all his life for his own home and then they take it off you, but you have to decide as a family the best route to take regarding this. Good luck. Jennifer.

I wonder if anyone could help me. My Dad is 83 years old, he has been independent since my Mum died in 1989. Just lately his house has been getting too much for him. He is now having problem with disrespectful Children playing football outside of his Property and causing damage to his hedge etc. I have put his name down in my area, I live in a Town outside of the City he lives in, for sheltered housing with the Council, Guinness Trust and also Abbeyfield. He owns his house but I am told this isn’t a problem. They are all full, but he is desperate to move near me so we can support him, take him out etc. He only goes out once a week when his carer takes him shopping unless we take him out. His carer has Family problems and I think wants to leave, but she has been with him for ten years and doesn’t want to let him down. Should we get a Social Worker involved as he is disabled through Arthritis, has had Heart problems and is on lots of different tablets? If anyone has been through this and has any information that would help me I would be grateful.

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