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you're not a waste of space ,if thats how she feels just ignore her ,she is.nt worth the bother .hugs jeanie from Dot x

Colin, You said it exactly! ' I often gave so much time and energy everywhere else that I forgot I was a person in my own right' I have been like this for too long (of necessity as I was my mum's care and I'm a mum also) and find it hard to say 'no' to doing things for other people when I have no time for myself. Will try and take that five minutes, thankyou. Rosexx

Hi All :) Like many of you I sometimes get the urge to just get up and go somewhere, normally stress related in some way or another with me though, dont know about the rest of you. Having been through six years living next door to my former drunken violent neighbours who I might add have now moved, life seems to have come back to a more even keel again thank goodness. I can only state the position I felt in at the time, some of you may feel similar or have similar problems that make you want to get away from it all. The feeling is real when going through it, I am lucky that I have an understanding wife and family who at the time gave support, for throughout those six years I went through many different emotions to. I feel for anyone going through similar things, I ended up seeking help also at one stage as the stress levels got to me big time. Anyone in a similar position might try the same. I dont mean traquilizers or magic knock out drops, but more someone to speak to, someone who has an understanding of what you are going through, please dont ever feel that no one is prepared to listen to your problems, there are many people who go through this alone everyday. Unloading does help. One thing I was taught was to give myself my five minutes in the day, a time for me to think what it was I wanted. I often gave so much time and energy everywhere else that I forgot that I was a person in my own right to. I was also taught that I didnt have to put up with the situation, I had the right to say my own piece. I often felt better for doing so and became a much stronger person for it to. You are all lovely in yourselves, and each and everyone of you is an individual in your own right regardless of anyone who puts you down or tries to make you feel bad in yourself. Colin :):)

Snow White. Sending you a huggle... daughters errrr....they say some very hurtful things don't they. Funnily enough I felt all week that I don't want to be here,, go home to mum..lol....she would let me to..... Pat x

Thanks Yvonne, big hug back to you! ((((( )))) Rosexx

Hi Snow White No your not a waste of space, you are a lovely person dont let anyone tell you different, My dad had pneumonia last year and was very very ill, if only I had known more about it, and new the symptons he wouldnt have ended up in hospital hes 88 but hes ok now. My dad gave me advice when I had Cancer many years and he always said 'Take care of No 1' and yourself is No1, so you take of yourself and dont worry about anyone else. Lots of love and Hugs Yvonne xxxx

Alaina yes that's the word Wanderlust! I am laughing to myself a bit as one of my mum's favourite songs was 'I was born under a Wandering star'. I remember when I was about six she walked out of the front door (and just up the village) my brother said she had gone to 'find a soldier' ,I thought she had left for good,but she was walking off a bad day! Snow white and Lilly Anne,I think the thing with being a daughter is that you never really feel you have to be a 'grown up' until your mum is ill, or has died. Until that happens your mum is always the strong one who sorts everything out and tells you it will be alright. Rosexx

I felt like that as well on the odd occasion, the feeling that you just dont care where it goes and no one will miss you feeling. At the time you feel just like a number and who cares, if you feel the same way Ramblin Rose, I can understand it, but it will pass. You must be feel very low at the moment. Big hug to you. Yvonne xxxx

Snow White Although people still don't seem to understand or even want to, I am in the process of sending everyone I know a letter about my illness & what I am going through. Its on here & I got it from Fibromyalgia Association website. I couldn't have worded it better. Google your illness & you will find plenty of info that you could print off. I am posting mine out - that way they can't change the subject while I am trying to explain it. Keep your chin up XXXX

Rose I've heard of that feeling it's called Wanderlust I think! I use to get that alot when I had my car, didn't like the fact that it was just sat outside and if anybody upset me at home I use to go for a drive up in to the Yorkshire Dales and stay there till I got bored, can't do it now not got a car : ( so I go for a long walk instead and stamp out the down feelings Alaina xxxx

some times when im the wicked stepmum which is most of the time , i wonder why i put myself through it .then i have a good day and i just know i cannot turn my back on them. snow white stay in there babe . we re here **************************big hugs ********************** to anyone who needs one dawn xx

Snow White (((((((((((hugs to you))))))))))))) Hope you feel better soon, Rosexx

Snow White Keep on here you poor babe - I have said this to people time & time again & the only peeps that are of any help are my friends on here. I am sure your daughter didn't mean what she said. I am having trouble with my teenager. They are just angry & frustrated that we're are not (& certainly not through our own doing) the mummy they have grown up with. What do they think is wrong with you?

In the great scheme of things I can't really complain, just a bit weighed down trying to do lots of things at once, supposed to be having a visit from someone but can't get a straight answer to a straight question about when and if and it's driving me mad! Tempted to just get a train and arrive on their doorstep unannounced! Rosexx

I don't know where we would end up but I would be looking for a door that says 'Pain Free Room.' :((((((

Yes I do sometimes........don't know why..........think it's the feeling of freedom that goes with it...... Nanna-Moo ;-)

Lol Lilly Anne! Where do think we'd end up, tempting isn't it!

When i get asked what i want for christmas i always say a ticket for the runaway train. Annie

yae plenty of times. the only thing that stops me is the kids asleep upstairs!!!!!

Rambling Rose I cannot believe what you've just said. I have just been sat with my hubby in conservatory, staring out the window & said 'I want to get in my car & drive & drive, then go up into the sky like Chitty Bang Bang'!!!!!!! What's wrong babe?