General Chat

I lost my Dad (my Bessy) in 1982. It does get easier but never goes away. Loved him to bits. Songs, phrases, times of year etc bring it all back. Mainly makes you feel good but but lost at the same time. Went and sat on my Dads grave a couple of months ago (at a low ebb at the time). Felt like I was sitting on his knee, told him my worries and fears etc. Cried buckets. Felt loads better afterwards - he was there with the bacon butty and brown sauce, cup of tea and a hug. His arms ard around me now (with the bacon butty LOL). They never go away. Give yourself time - and then some. Libby xx

Oh Susan You are asking too much of yourself. I lost my Dad in 1975 & Mum In 1980 and many the time I think of them and have tears. Its really early days for you and you have to go thro the grieving time before you can think of them without breaking down I know its a cliquey but time does heal the pain and we do get to a time when we can think of them and remember things & laugh again I can still have tears i can now accept they have gone

We all grieve in our own way; it is early days yet for you. That hole in your life, we know well, all you can do is to try to fill it with good memories. Just remember that there are lots of us that know how you are feeling & are here, 1 of us are sure to be on the threads if you want to talk. (((HUG)))

A hug and cuddle for you Susan, I think you are being hard on yourself, you have gone through something awful and it is such early days, Look after yourself love, Caz xxxxxxxxxxxx

So sorry to hear of your loss Susan. Love Mau xx Have sent a pm.

Thank you all. I guess three weeks isn't long. My OH says it is partly because I visited him regularly when he was in the nursing home and helped my Mum etc. and now I feel a void. He's right, there is a hole there and I can't seem to fill it. I miss him so much. Susan

Oh! Susan, of course you feel down, you have lost your Dad, and it is dam hard, I know, just try and take some comfort that he is no longer in pain, and he is reunited with any loved one's gone before-sorry cannot find the words I need to comfort you, but go away next week, and if you can relax for just a few minutes it is a start-God Bless you, hope you manage to find some peace. Jennifer.

Hi Susan, you must give yourself space and time to grieve. No-one can say how long that will take - some days will be better than others. I lost my dad 7 years ago and I still miss him, but it does get a little easier over time. You will never forget him and he will always be there by your elbow as mine is. If you just want to curl up into a ball then, fine, do that, whatever feels right for YOU at this very sad time. My healing thoughts, love and peace Sylvxx

I know it doesn't help but....time really does heal......... Give yourself time darlingxxxxxall the time u needxxx Thank you again for the lovely poemxxx

Hiya Susan, It's called grieving Sue, take it slowly sweet. It will get better, but only when you think it should. Take it easy Sue. xx

So sorry to hear about your Dad. It takes time Susan, don't expect too much of yourself. you have to take things as they come, good days and bad days. The bad will slowly be replaced and wonderful memories will replace the pain. Take care of yourself. Tina x

You are indeed asking too much of yourself Susan. When i lost my mum ,it was quite a few months before i finally moved on,give yourself longer to come to terms with your loss. Even fourteen years later i still miss mum a lot ,but i assure you ,it does get easier.Fred.

Not at all Susan it's normal to feel how you do. Who can blame you. it's going to take alot of time and understanding from all your friends and family. I'm so sorry you lost your dad. It' can't be easy. We all deal with things in our own way-you will sort it out I'm sure when you are ready to. catherine xx

As some people know my beloved Dad passed away three weeks ago after a good fight. I can't seem to lift myself up. I have no enthusiasm for doing anything and even my pleasure in my grandchildren isn't quite the same. We are supposed to be going away next week and all I want to do is curl up in a ball and stay at home. The first week was fine and I felt quite positive but now I feel so down. Do you think I am expecting too much of myself? Susan