General Chat

Someone using this pseudonym has asked to view my tree. As I do not know who you are I am not giving access unless I am given some evidence of possible relationship. I am tired of being conned into giving access only to find people add my tree to their own without asking and then disappear from the site probably reappearing with a totally different nameRosemary

Rosemary this is a genuine person will pm you off the board as to who it is. Shelli

I second Shelli's posting, Rosemary, as we know who it is. :-)

And I'll third it! lol

Hey Rosemary, i've had a few people tried to get access to my tree, and they either just want to be nosey, are trying to get personal details, or are just plain stupid. They usually say something like 'Can I c ur tree plz' either trying to sound like an idiot or they actually are one. I always ask what kind of connection they believe they have first.

I echo what Paul has said. Never, never open your tree to someone until you find out what the connection is.

Whilst I do agree about not opening your tree to someone until you're sure of a connection, it has already been stated here that the person in question is a well liked member of the site. Hopefully Rosemary has been put in the picture as to who it is by now. If not Rosemary, please feel free to pm me.

Actually, after my first posting, I should have added about verifying the person's identity, but didn't. Doh. So with a very red face, I'll second the bits about checking who the person is, and asking for possible connections. :-)

Thank you everyone for your replies. Rebecca has now contacted me. I just donot understand why people ask for access but send no message as to why the think they might be connected. I also cannot understand why people use pseudonymns and keep changing them. Are thy so ashamed of who they are? Rosemary(Essex)

I will help anyone but will not release my tree..

This has come up on the tips board too. It seems a bit rude to ask to see someone's tree without explaining why. I don't mean you should have to have a paragraph of small talk but the whole point of this hobby is to make connections. Surely talking to people is important. I have never had an email like that but if I did I think it would make me want to sit on it and not share, just like my children do with each other! Regards Abigail

Rosemary, Many of use use an alias on the boards as we don't want the hassels our own name brings. Mine is a shortened version of my given name and I don't use my surname on her as I'm easily recognisable to others who know my full name. There were also at one time several people with my given name on the boards and this has helped to distinguish me from them. And, as said before, your contact is a real and very nice person. Regards Viv in North Herts (hence the heart)

I seem to remember Bec changed her name to that as a joke just before her membership ran out. If she's not posting on the boards, as she won't be able to do, she probably hasn't realised that her name is still appearing as it is.

It just seems plain rude and bad manners to say,,,'Can I see your tree please' Unless they can tell me how they think we have a good link the they dont get access, Iv had my tree harvested and details popped onto someone elses when i have allowed 'slight' connections to view,

Well, well, well - that's who it was!! mine was nothing as ordinary as a tree view request