General Chat

hi annie,im sure social services will go with the grandsons feelings.im sending lots of positive thoughts cos you need em.hugs joyxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Morning, As a grandmother myself my heart goes out to you. You mention that he is in your care at the moment. Obviously I don't know your personal situation, but is it possible that you can at this conference next week, put forward the option to have him remain with you on a longer term basis. Aileen xx

First of all Grannie huge hugs to you , you have my utmost respect, I dont know all the background to your lads case but I have been to a couple of those big case conferences when my 16 year old went right off the rails, It was very outfacing and I went on my own, I would always advise to go with someone, I was desperate for help and when social services visited his dad and his wife who lived in the same town he said he didnt want to be involved, that gutted me, he didnt want to help his own lad, Anyway sorry I digress, is there any chance of him going to his dad or back to you? Take care love, Caz xxxxxxxxx

SS need to arrange visits at one of their centres, which are on neutral ground, so that chance of rebuilding a relationship can be done gradually. Jay

oh the poor lad what must he be going through. He obviously not happy with the mother, maybe a day visit might be better suggested, so the relationship can be re-built and bridges mended hopefully one day. The lad obviously dosen't want to sleep over and forcing him to to so will only cause bitter resentement. I do hope you sort it out for the lads sake Grannie. I do so feel for him and all of you. catherine xx

Annie sending lots of Blue to you for healing Whoooosh! may i say i know what it is to love your G/Children it would Kill me if i didn,t see mine. First of all your granson says where he would like to be with his dad i do hope he will be listened too and some way can be found for this to happen if not all the time maybe something on a regular basis where he knows he can count on being with his dad He needs to know he is loved and the love of one parent is better than one who does not. I hope with allmy heart this gets resolved God Bless June xxx.

Annie, I really feel for you,what a poor muddled grandson you have, I have been to these conferences about family matters, please mail me if you want to chat about it, I cannot add my situation on here as I have family members that have access to these boards and it wouldn't be fair for me to talk about it openly. Take care, Gillie xx

Poor little chap - obviously does not want to be with his mom - pray everything gets sorted for his sake and yours. Take care all of you. Hugs Mary in Spain xxx

Some Social Workers just don't have a clue, they should wait till things are more settled before they start shoving the lad around again. He must feel like a parcel bless him. Liz

Carol I was just about to say that. He's 10 years old, and clearly knows where he wants to be. I know the Social workers like to try to repair relationships between parents and children if they can, but they should take into account what the child wants as well as the parent. He's clearly not ready for that yet.

He obviously isent happy with his mother, it very sad all round,I do hope things work out for all concerned but more Importantly for the child concerned. Roxanne x

Sounds to me that those Social Workers should have asked him if he wanted to go to his Mum.

As some of you know i had my grandson put in my care 2 weeks ago by social workers.He went to my sons friday night for the half term.Social workers rang my son up and said his mother could have him 2 seperate days of his holiday.Son took him round this evening until tomorrow evening and he ran away.We have just found him and he is back with my son.There is a conference meeting next monday with loads of official people about his furture which we are also involved.A very worring time now what will happen to him. Annie