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i ask because on friday i am going to be best man for my brother Dreading it got to make a speech which ive chopped and change numerous times in the last couple of months how did you cope and was u nervous or did u sail through the day

I'm sure you will do your brother proud!

my hubby was best man last year for his uncle and was really really nervous but when it came time for him to make his speech he took a deep breath and did a brilliant job of it! you'll be fine, it's an honour for you to be chosen so enjoy yourself.

I have never been a best man mainly because i'm a woman lol but I can give you a tip or two. Don't whatever you do call the bride the wrong name, it's really bad, worse if the groom does it though lol Don't tap the glass with your knife to get attention at a friends wedding the best man did this and the glass fragments went flying into the cake and it couldn't be eaten. Don't get too drunk before the speeches, not only will you make a fool of yourself, the bride and her family will be gunning for you. Try and tell a few clean jokes. When reading cards and acknowledgements make sure you read cards from those guests that have travelled a long distance, those that couldn't make it and if the bride and groom have grandparents still alive, from grandparents if you keep nan happy bride will be happy. Tell bride and bridesmaids how beautiful they look. But most of all relax and enjoy it!! Good luck Jackie

Hubby has been one a couple of times. Keep notes on index cards rather than big sheet then you can follow place easily Don't worry about trying to make it hilarious - just put in a couple of jokes. He found props go down well - have a little wrapped up parcel for bride - bag of marbles(as she's obviously lost hers wanting to marry him) or pack of paracetamals for wedding night (will expect condoms) Try and enjoy yourself, it's an honour to be asked and you may not have chance again. I'm sure you'll wonder why you were so worried once it's over. Have fun

Quote ::::little wrapped up parcel for bride - bag of marbles(as she's obviously lost hers wanting to marry him) Love that idea thanks off to google best man speeches now

A good opening line works wonders. The one I used at my own wedding was: This is the second time today I've risen from a warm seat with a piece of paper in my hand....

You should be able to get a bag of marbles from somewhere like woolies. Tesco do them for 50p if you've got one nearby! Good luck! Dawn

A tremendous honour - good luck. i've done it twice now - and probably will never be asked again! Dawn's idea with the props is good and works very well. One word of caution, if I were you and have a quick chat with both the bride's father (and maybe you're own) to check for taboo subjects and anyone who may be easily offended in the family. The other big tip (and I believe I had the BEST best man ever) is to make sure that everything the bride and groom need is done, and that you are at their beck and call all day. There are always problems at weddings but if you are the man on the spot and you sort them out, they will forgive you anything!!!

good advice tony .... i have got the transport sorted and flowers got to pick up jeeez its hard work with everything to remeber ...appreciate all your comments and definately off to woolies tomorrow to get some marbles