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Since my son was born, I havent been able to relax at all, I almost feel scared sometimes, mostly at evening/night. Thought of taking pills, but with 3 children, I cant afford to be drowsy or have side effects.

hiya rebekah (((((((((((((((((hugs ))))))))))))))))x

Ah, thanks Sandra.

Anxiety is very common and very scary. Do go and see your doctor as there may be something s/he can do to alleviate your symptoms. Having said that, I don't think I knew what worry was till I had children!

Have you tried St John's Wort? its a herbal remedy that is good for anxiety and depression. (((hug))) xx

Sounds like you need lots of ((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))) Rebekah,,,,go to the docs they will be able to give you something that does'nt make you drowsy,,,,they did for me and they worked. tcxx Rose.

Thanks all. Ive heard of St Johns Wort, but I think I'll actually buy some tomorrow, got to start somewhere! I keep thinking, what if I die and my kids grow up without a mum? Then I think my husband'll die etc...he thinks Im a nutter lol. Very supportive tho!!

Have you spoken to your Health Visitor -may be slight post natal depression, Love, Ros xxxxxxxxxx

Hi Rebekah,,,I know when I went to H&B with my mum for St Johns Wort they said best to see doctor first,,don't know if it's still the same just a thought tc xx Rose

Yes, she was lovely. Youngest is 8 months old now tho so I told her I feel fine...didnt want her to think Im a moaning minnie! I feel so panicky tho at night. Battery dying on laptop so will say goodnight all.

You are no different to millions of other proud mothers My Lady. It will always be my greatest regret that I was rarely there to help my wife cope with three children of less than five years old. But she coped.................. and so will you. For that is what life demands of a caring mother. And I can assure you that your dedication will some day be richly rewarded. A woman's body goes through a million and one changes before, during and after the birth of her child. There is absolutely no reason why you should not take beneficial medication during any of those stages. Be not afraid to pop those pills My Lady, for they may give you greater comfort than any Physician could envisage. Just be sure to retain control in your own mind of that which matters to you most. I have never been one to do 'hugs' My Lady.............. but you have my very bestest wishes. L

hi rebekah, before taking st johns wort, i would suggest you have a word with your doctor, as not enough research has been done on this herbal remedy. bach rescue, is completely harmless, a few drops in a small bottle of mineral water, sipped all day, will take the edge off anxiety... available at chemists, and health stores. bryan.

Bach rescue remedy is great...i suffer from panic attacks and that is a life line for me,as is St Johns wort,but,u should see your doc before u start taking this as it can interfire with other medsxx if u ever need a chat Pm mexx

First off, you don't sound at all deranged so forget that worry!! Bach's Rescue Remedy is good and you can take as much or as little as you need, ask at a Health food store. You don't even need to take it in water, you can just add a few drops to your tongue. Another thing to help calm anxiety is Passiflora and Ativa drops, which you take in water morning and night, and you can get those at some Health food stores, but I am not sure H & B sell them, certainly others do. Do speak to your Health Visitor or Doctor again tho, cos even tho your little one is 8 months old, you might still be suffering a bit of p.n. depression and why not get some help from them, you are not a failure as a mother, more you are being sensible in getting yourself sorted. It is natural to feel anxious but it is when it starts to affect you badly that it needs attention. Also try and make sure you have a little bit of me time, mums need tlc as well as children so talk again to your husband and see if he will be a little more supportive. Good luck, there is always someone around on here to talk to if you need to. Liz

Not having had children I don't know the pressure you will be under but when i have been anxious about other things I take Kalms availble in Boots, Superdrug and they really work. ((((hugs)))) Tx