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It would have been my 7th Wedding anniversary yesterday, Patrick died four weeks later, we were together for 10 years before marrying. Although time has taught me to deal with it and my life has moved on (I have married again), I still had a good cry yesterday, and still talk about him a lot. Don't worry what people think he was your son, you do what is best for you and your family. Love and hugs Rebecca

I totally identify with that Jennifer. People do seem to put a time limit on grieving. Truth is there is no time limit. But crying and talking is your outlet. Dont bottle your feelings up.

Thank you, got to try and sleep now up at 5.30 a.m. to take hubby to work, even though I have a day off-Goodnight God Bless and thank you dear friends. Jennifer.

Jennifer, don't listen to those who say you should have done this by now, or should have done that by now. What do they know. Grief has no time span, everyone is different. Allow yourself to grieve in your own way, in your own time.

June has been for councilling, me I cannot face it-it has not helped her, yet, maybe in the future, but we are both so raw, do not know how to cope with it, people expect after over six months that we can now cope with it, I wish....

Jennifer,I can remember before i married my husband he got very upset one night at my house over the death of his dad.Did not know what to do or say,so i went and bought his mum to my house.They talked and talked for hours and we made her stay the night.They both cried so much,but after that they seemed so much easier with life.Hope that happens with you.If i could wave a wand,you know what i would wish for. Annie

Cry together Jennifer, and share your grief with each other, that way you can prop each other up. Sounds like a mutual hug and a good cry together will do you both good, and just what you both need. Go and have a cuppa with her tomorrow.

Hi Jennifer, I really feel for you, losing a son is one of the worst losses ever. His partner must think very highly of you to be able to speak to you as you are both hurting so much now. He would want you to comfort each other as much as you can. You cannot do anymore than you are doing, which is being there for her and speaking about him. My thoughts are with you. XXX Ellie

Hi Jennifer Did you get the details about CRUSE ?? www (.)crusebereavementcare(.)org(.)uk It might be worth your sons's partner getting in touch with them.

Thank you

All you can do is be there for each other, and take one day at a time. Talking helps (or did me). My thoughts are with you. Rebecca

Just phone her and let her do the talking, she obviously needs you. (Hugs)

Just had my Son's partner on the phone asking me how to cope wth Stephen's death-what do I tell her as I cannot cope with it, she has cried for twenty minutes and her talk time ran out, cannot ring her back cos I do not know what to say-she is hurting the same as me-sorry to be on a downer but am lost here.