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Muffyxx

Muffyxx Report 22 Aug 2009 21:49

I have up til now refused to allow my two (aged 6 and almost 9) to have televisions in their rooms....

Of course now eldest has clocked her friend having one.......I'm under pressure.

What are your experiences of letting them have one in their rooms....and at what age did you first allow it.?

I took the stance that I'd prefer them to be downstairs watching TV with us as a family rather than sloping off to their rooms separately.......I DO think 9 yr old may be ready to use it responsibly but not the younger one.......it'd make her more hyper than she already is.

Just interested to hear and learn of others experiences...........ta xx

Jane

Jane Report 22 Aug 2009 21:51

My 2 were not allowed a TV in the bedroom until they were at senior school.

maggiewinchester

maggiewinchester Report 22 Aug 2009 21:53

Mine (okay they're in their late 20's now) never had TV's in their rooms.
If it's children's TV it's on downstairs. If it's adult TV they sould be in bed!!
Seven year old grand daughter isn't even allowed to take her DS to bed!!

StrayKitten

StrayKitten Report 22 Aug 2009 21:55

my eldest got a tv the xmas she was 3
but thy only watched it on a morning when they got up before us middle child is in with her to

baby s he got one last year only because i got it given he watches it before bed to wind down

but none of them ever go to there room to watch tv so kinda a waste of money lol

maggiewinchester

maggiewinchester Report 22 Aug 2009 21:55

When mine were older I found I could - to an extent determine how they would turn out by the programmes I let them watch!!
So no TV's in bedrooms even when they were in senior school

Muffyxx

Muffyxx Report 22 Aug 2009 22:01

From a *voice in the wilderness*

Hello Muffy my children all had TV by the age of 7yrs...always brought on request with videos and then later DVDs, and always for xmas, at the time I thought this was a great idea, they could watch what the like and I could watch what I like in peace, with out any, " what was he in before" or " is that her out of whats it" even we had a TV in our room...... it spoilt our family closeness I think, after tea each would disappear in to their rooms and that was that, I had ours removed from our room in the end, it made us unsocialable as a family, the kids still have their TV's ..... I now wish we could all sit as a family and share just the one TV.....:((((


*** Mummo ***

*** Mummo *** Report 22 Aug 2009 22:01

Muffy, if you allow them to have a television in there rooms you must only allow certain times when they can have it on..........we all need time alone wether your young or old, not just to watch t.v but space to do what you want, most nights l go up at 9 pm as l like to read and l think if you give your girls a bit of trust they will
not abuse it, please allow them a bit of me time, x
PS use the dinner table to have a good talk about the days events.x

Gypsy

Gypsy Report 22 Aug 2009 22:03

My children are 8, 10 and 12 andeach have a tv in their rooms, and have had for a few years - Certainly the eldest.
I think it all comes down to moderation.
My children are not allowed to watch their tv before bed unless it's a Friday or Saturday and they are not allowed it on before school either.
I don't mind them having the tv's as long as they obey the rules. I have never had a problem with the rules. If I found they were watching tv on a school night, Tv would be removed. Simple.
Pat

Amanda2003

Amanda2003 Report 22 Aug 2009 22:05

My daughter ( 15 ) has had a TV in her room for several years but no ariel attached , she watches dvds . If she wants to watch something and it isn't on downstairs she watches in our bedroom .
If you let yours have a TV ( with ariel ) you can't be sure they arn't watching something unsuitable .

My Grand children have had a TV ( for vidios / dvds ) more or less since baby hood . They can't sleep unless it's on !!
Good luck : ))

Amanda2003

Amanda2003 Report 22 Aug 2009 22:07

An advantage to having a TV in their room is that if you have to punish them you can always take it away for a week or a few days.........almost slipped out an evil cackle then ............lol

Muffyxx

Muffyxx Report 22 Aug 2009 22:09

They for sure wouldn't have Sky in their rooms and the analogue reception here is pants so it's most likely DVDs or nowt lol..

I have said I'd rig one up when we get the return sleepover next week.......for a quiet life........coward that I am lol..........

I'd prefer them to read tbh so I may just put in it for weekends and school holidays but even then.........one abuse and it's gone xx

SueMaid

SueMaid Report 22 Aug 2009 22:11

Never allowed TV's in their rooms as children. We watched TV together. They did have their own cassette players then cd players in their rooms. Of course it's personal opinion and I wouldn't criticise anyone who allows its. My daughter's eldest - 5 today - has a portable DVD player which he loves.

Sue xx

Jean

Jean Report 22 Aug 2009 22:11

Hi. My three kids had tv in their rooms and it never did them any harm. When they were young i use to limit them to how much they could watch plus it use to be a reward for them when they had been really good or done something without moaning
Jean

Gypsy

Gypsy Report 22 Aug 2009 22:11

Just to add, Like Amanda, My children don't have aerials attatched. So it's approved DVD's only :^)

*** Mummo ***

*** Mummo *** Report 22 Aug 2009 22:18

Muffy just remember when you girls get older not only did you bring them up, we also helped, lol.
Night all, speak soon, x

Muffyxx

Muffyxx Report 22 Aug 2009 22:24

Aaaaa but you'll only want your names on the credits if they turn out ok Mummo LOLOLOLOL

I had half made up my mind to allow weekend and holiday access........just remember a friend of mine rueing the day she allowed a tv set into her daughters room as she couldn't then sleep without it being on......same old story I spose.........everything in moderation........and I like Amandas idea of using it as a punishment *evil cackle* there you go.......I did it lol xx

Susan10146857

Susan10146857 Report 23 Aug 2009 00:25

age 13...maybe 16...and even then twas only so's they can watch it now and then....they become too isolated otherwise. To be turned off before bedtime.

Yes some have one at a younger age....but tis a no no really...just think about the fors and against......the against far outweigh the fors......common sense really....pressures are put on us left right and centre...tis easy to give in....but later in life...they will tell you that they knew you were right....just wanted to push to see how far they can go....Guilt shouldn't be a reason to give in to what one knows is common sense...otherwise the child will rule over the parents as the are many many reasons we could feel guilty when there is no real reason to.......Love and common sense.....not Guilt and blackmail should be the way.....In my opinion, that is :-)))

I deleted...posted twice

maggiewinchester

maggiewinchester Report 23 Aug 2009 00:29

Prefer them to read Mufy - lol
My 7 year old grandaughteer is here tonight.
She went to bed later than she should (well us granandparents are allowed to do that) then said she'd like to read.
Okay says I - they're on the shelf.
Went back up after 15 minutes to find she didn't have a 'normal' book that you read - she had a book of mine that turns into a fairy castle!! LOL 10/10 for originality and nerve!!

*Note to self - must hide own books*

Berona

Berona Report 23 Aug 2009 01:42

None of mine got any entertainment in their rooms other than a clock radio (to wake them up!) until they bought their own. They all preferred to buy stereos first.

Saturday mornings was bedlam in our house, until they decided to tune all their stereos into the same morning program (for teens), and they opened their windows - so we had "surround sound" all around the house - inside and out!

Elizabethofseasons

Elizabethofseasons Report 23 Aug 2009 01:55

Dear All

Hello

We have television in the house.

It is ONE TV in the living room and we all use it!

No individual TV's until the person is old enough to pay the bill.

The youngsters can play scrabble, sew, knit, read, paint.
All creative activities and we can talk.

There is far too much technology now.

Whilst some has been great, it has caused a lot of isolation.

Very best wishes to all
xx