General Chat

Uggers and sparklingAnninGlos.

I perhaps didn't make it clear what i meant, I was not talking about people who are genuinely, and seriously unwell, i was referring to the people who make believe, as the thread says, that I just cant get my head round.

I fully support anyone who is unfortunate enough to have serious problems weather it be through illness or life in general, but people who invent problems just for attention, that to me is strange.

I know about Jean's illness, Foggy has told me about it, he has met her and was very saddened about it, as I was, my comment was not about genuinely ill people but as I said the pretenders.

George

Daff yes she did/does.

Good morning Uggers and everyone.
I have no problem with people talking about their illness's/problems at all as I think its good therapy to talk but I do take care in how involved I get on the net. I will send best wishes and thoughts to those in need as it can be a comfort. I am usually a good judge when it comes to working out the genuine ones but then we are all capable of making mistakes.
I think people who make things up are doing it for attention and that in itself is a cry for help...Not in all cases though...Some are just plain Nasty. To make up a story like the one about having Cancer though is absolutely disgusting and an insult to those who are genuinely suffering from this terrible disease...I only hope it doesn't come back to bite them on the Bum... xxxxx

I can understand a younger person being conned by a sob-story, especially if they are a sympathetic type of person. I was like that myself when younger and might have been conned if I had been accessing the Internet.

However, I have to say that as an older person, I have no problem spotting an actor these days and I know of at least three people who have contributed in the past or are still contributing to these boards, who definitely have been going through hell as far as health goes, and I have nothing but the highest admiration for their wonderful courage and ability to look on the bright side and even joke with us. We could all learn a lot from them.

yeah its a psychological thing, i think its a bit like anorexia, as in it can be cured but always needs monitoring as it can come bck,

Didn't Beverley Allit have Munchausen's Syndrome by Proxy? I am sure she did! Does, cos I don't think it is curable, but controllable.

Love

Daff xxxxxxx

Daft or not, I tend to believe people who say they are unwell or are in some sort of distress........perhaps because I can't see the point of telling lies about it......strange thing to do......

Thank you WW I knew some sm,,,, clever person would know. I could say it but not spell it.

George there is nothing strange about people talking about their illnesses. Sometimes just talking about it makes a person feel better, and if they find somebody who suffers with the same thing they know they are not alone. Also not everybody has friends and family to turn to when they are frightened because they are ill to talk about it on here helps.

But that is not what the person Amanda is talking about did. I do wonder sometimes if these people who pretend to be ill are ill but in a different way to what they say, something like M..... (I can't spell it but know what I mean, will have to look it up) disease.

David its not only taking advantage of people

its disgusting and shameful

and makes people distrust the genuinely ill

Stella, Iike most people on here, I'm not likely to criticise anyone for seeking support when they need it - Jean Durant is one of me best mates:) - I'm only talking about people making up stuff for attention - I thought I'd made that clear. It's taking advantage of peoples good nature

George, each to their own - not for all of us but then some people have found they get strength from the support they've had hear and elsewhere. I really don't like you calling people like Jean strange for being honest and open in public about what they're going through.

I had, and still have, masses of support from the folk on here.... in fact, even though I am feeling very well, whenever I update that I am going to the clinic, whatever, I always get messages from folk kind enough to wish me well.... and it really, really works, knowing that so many people have thought about you.... even if it is just long enough to type a quick word, or sentence before getting on with the rest of their day gives you a huge boost.... so I will always try to return some of that to others who might feel the need for a bit of a boost.

However........ the saying what goes around comes around, works for good and ill.... and those who make things up, well, they get their come uppance, I think, one way or another, eventually.

I also laughed myself silly over some of the antics, lol..... I believe there might still be a charabanc full of GR members (I think Kitty was navigating with an upside down map) stuck on the M25 looking for a nice pair of eyebrows for me, lol I do think I ought to let them know mine have grown back lovely, lol! ;¬))

Love

Daff xxxxx

That was beautifully put Joy.

The thing that annoys me about people pretending to be seriously ill, is that detracts from those who genuinely need support. It would be truly dreadful if we all became so cynical, that we ignored the 'real' because of the unreal.

I'm a naturally suspicious person - not always a good thing. I tend to look closely at any story - but I've been caught. What's the old saying - "fool me once shame on you...fool me twice shame on me".

Sue xx

Uggers ,
like some on here it hasn't hardened me but...
after one night on here with someone that a lot of us thought she was going to harm her self and a lot of us were very very worried about her
and it turned out to be a hoax , now if i" know" the person on the boards
yes i will send them caring thoughts .
Hazelx

Aint it just Lynda,:}

Its a wicked thing to do to make up a life threat illness,,,,,I hope they never get touched by it,

This doesn't just happen on the Internet - someone I know was 'fooled' by a so-called friend inventing a serious illness, I suppose to gain and keep attention and affection. Much harder to do in 'real life' though, than from the safety of the keyboard!

I don't tend to get taken in, but then I don't participate very much in things on the web. I much prefer talking to someome face to face, I just can't get that close to someone I haven't met, I can sympathise and support in a basic way but can't get very 'gushy' - just the way I am. I have met people from here before and liked them, so I guess I'm not that anti-social, just not a big fan of pc-based social networking.

No I aint a sucker in cyber or real life,,,seen too many,deal with too many and cant be fannying about with sob stories that are part of everyday life and easy dealt with .like a splinter in my finger or what ever.....

But going on Amandas thread.....I wouldnt have got that involved from the start as there must have been flaws.....

it would deeply sadden me
if somebody faked an illness for attention
they would in my mind be sick in the head
some people dont bring stuff like that to the boards
and uses the boards as an escape
from the sadness of their real world

but others are blessed in been able to share their experiences
and bring hope to others who have no hope left

I see no harm in sending positive thoughts, be they really needed or just someone trying to 'pull a fast one' (after all they must be sick to put up such threads).
However, when it comes to gaining someone's trust to fleece them - they seem to back off from me. I don't have a credit card and rarely use my debit card - I usually say I'll send a cheque, ask for their address - and hear no more from them!
This applies to everything, renewing with GR, the GRO and other things I may buy/use on the internet, not just pleas for money.

It's obvious anyone can say/claim anything in the anonymity of the internet , but, as other's have said - liars slip up eventually.