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SueMaid | Report | 25 Jan 2010 10:57 |
What interesting stories have come out of this thread. Thank you:-) |
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Persephone | Report | 25 Jan 2010 08:50 |
My Great great Grandmother lay dying and she extracted a promise from a friend that she would look after her six children. The woman found it impossible to refuse the dying woman's request. She looked after the children and my Great great grandfather noticed that she did it well and he pointed out that the best way to keep her promise would be to marry him. She had no wish to marry a man that was years older than herself but she agreed and they were married 5 months later. The second wife had 11 children to him. He is known in NZ history books as being a bit of a villain - ran a boarding house and charged a huge rent. A hard and intolerant North of Ireland man, very narrow in his out look. I am indebted to his second wife as she raised my Great grandmother who was two when her mum died and by all accounts she turned out to be a very lovely lady. |
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maggiewinchester | Report | 25 Jan 2010 00:40 |
Further to my previous thread. |
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DIZZI | Report | 25 Jan 2010 00:09 |
I HAVE RICH,AN FAMOUS,,BUT BY FAR I ADMIRE MY AG LABS |
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maggiewinchester | Report | 25 Jan 2010 00:04 |
Difficult question in many ways. How many of us were told at school that the Victorians were very 'straight laced' - many of us now know that it was an image. So many of us have found out that grandparents and great grandparents were conceived or born out of wedlock - it almost seems more 'normal' than those conceived after marriage! |
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Kay???? | Report | 24 Jan 2010 22:08 |
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SueMaid | Report | 24 Jan 2010 21:56 |
Uggers I think we can understand our ancestors doing their best in harsh times. I'm in touch with a rellie who told me that our great grandmother told his grandfather that instead of sending her photos of him in his army band uniform to send money. Apparently she had my great grandfather put into a lunatic asylum for what was probably dementia and then promptly put her two youngest children into an Industrial School and they never lived with her again. I think she was probably a tough Yorkshire woman. |
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SueMaid | Report | 24 Jan 2010 21:51 |
My gg grandfather remarried a widow within 6 months of my gg grandmother dying leaving him with 3 small children. His new wife had been a widow for 8 months and had 2 little boys. I used to wonder how they could remarry so quickly but then I thought about how there was no help for a widowed woman with 2 children and how would my gg grandfather manage to work and look after 3 children. It made sense to remarry quickly. His step-son lived with him until his death. |
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Uggers | Report | 24 Jan 2010 21:49 |
Difficult Sue - my one great grandmother was a bit of a harsh character and the more I learn about her past the more I can see why - which I think I'd do with anyone from any time. But then I also know that she didn't do the best for her kids and they could have done with getting more from her - that's a shame whatever time you're looking at. |
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Silly Sausage | Report | 24 Jan 2010 21:47 |
Legend has it that my greatgrand mother married her second husband after she was widowed young with 3 young children....no she wasnt and no she didnt but she did leave her eldest child in the work house for what reasons I dont know... |
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JoyBoroAngel | Report | 24 Jan 2010 21:46 |
they did the best they could with what they had |
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Whirley | Report | 24 Jan 2010 21:43 |
Morning Sue and all............. |
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SueMaid | Report | 24 Jan 2010 21:35 |
I found out the other day that one of my ancestors put his two youngest children onto a farm where they were working at the age of 9 and 10 years old. He and his wife had a huge family and I realise now that they probably couldn't take care of them. At least on the farm they could possibly have been reasonably well fed. |
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TheLadyInRed | Report | 24 Jan 2010 21:34 |
If we are to be rational about this then we can't possibly judge by present day standards - laws and social rules develop from what is considered to be socially acceptable at the time. |
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Muffyxx | Report | 24 Jan 2010 21:33 |
I have a similar issue with my G Grandfather.......sounds like he was an absolute swine......don't know of any mitigating circumstances... but as a result I don't research his family as often as I should because of the first hand character accounts I've had about him xx |
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ButtercupFields | Report | 24 Jan 2010 21:33 |
My Grandmother was picked out of her seven sisters for marriage to a comparative stranger. She had no alternative but to obey her father's wishes even though she loved someone else. It was the custom in the west of Ireland at that time. I often think of her. BCXX |
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JoyBoroAngel | Report | 24 Jan 2010 21:22 |
when i was little i didnt like my nana |
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SueMaid | Report | 24 Jan 2010 21:17 |
..............................................................judge our ancestors by our standards? I'm sure we all have ancestors who have done things that we wouldn't consider these days but were they wrong given the circumstances they lived in? |