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((((((((((hugs)))))))))))) my eldest son moved out in May, I miss him dreadfully, but I don't miss the arguments between him and my daughter lol. Sue

I am sure she will be fine Pat, but i understand how you are upset. Not having a daughter (only 3 son's ) i should think it is worse when they move out especially on there own. You have the phone and by the sounds of it she is not too far away. Just think of not having to clear up behind the dog. Val x

Hi Patricia It takes a little getting used to. My eldest left home at 19 got himself a flat but brought the dirty washing round once a week. I usually had a couple of Casseroles in freezer for him to take home too. How stupid are us parents lol My youngest son never moved from home until he bought his own house 6 months before he got married. He always said Mum I like it here at home I know which side my breads buttered lol. Both boys are great cooks and never did starve themselves although I still get the odd phone call even after 10 years saying what you cooking for dinner Mum. But love to have them home for a meal with their wives and children. Yes Patricia you do get used to it, but I'm sure you will always be there for her if she needs you. Regards Jackie

Both of my sons moved out 6 years ago to share a house together because we were moving 70 miles away and they didnt want to leave their jobs or friends. They shared a house together. Eldest moved back four years ago, moved out again last year when he got a new job in Sheffield. I agree that even the untidiest, smelly teens can change when it is their own place !! You never do get used to peeling less spuds though. Libby x

Pat, You will be fine ((((big hugs))) she will only be a phone call away......Daughters are best friends in disguise.

Hi Pat Children are only lent to us, we have to let them move on and do things they want to do, but I think this is a good move, you will get used to her being away and you can always meet up with her sounds like you are not living too far away. Sue

It's amazing - even the most untidy and disorganised children often keep their own homes spotless and those who complained that they couldn't afford the smallest amount of board payments to their parents, pay their bills with no problem! :-)

Ahhh just thought wonder who she is going to get to do the washing up.....something she has never done....she'll make something and leave everything.. and she'll have to get up and clean up after the dog...... My head is saying she'll be fine.... but heart is being selfish.... Hang onto boys for abit longer... Thanks you all for you support it is so appreicated.. Pat x

Jackie.. Thankyou......looking at my favourite yellow daffs!!!!!! Love Pat x

Oh Bless it does get easier, Lilx

Hiya Pat (((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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I have that to come Pat, A big hug for you XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX Caz xxxxxxx

When I lived at home me and my mum were often at logger heads, it wasn't until I moved out did our relationship get better. Things calmed down and I really began to apprieciate her, she bacame my best friend. When you are not living under the same roof, you both have your own space and when you do see each other you will get on better. Big hugs to you Jackie:o)

It's natural to feal tearful when they leave home--but you have done an excellent job in enabling her to become independant,rows ,arguments and sulks are all part of it . word of warning--tomorrow whilst helping her unpack,just do the basics,hang curtains etc. DO NOT tell her where to put her stuff,she's on her own now-she will decide in her own time where things live,may not be the ideal place-as far as youare concerned. leave her to be free and know you will be there for her if you are needed.

Thankyou all so much . I think I'm worried because she is on her own... she has the rent to pay terrible amount £750 then gas / leccy..plus dog.. She moaned and sometimes never paid £35 a week. so it's going to be a big shock to her.. Also worry as she has suffered with eating disorder a few years ago, went down to 6st, so will have to keep popping over to see if she's had tea!!!!after work..and take some goodies. But I am pround of her, and hopefully as you say enjoy a lovely relationship with her now.. My youngest son is over the moon. he is moving in her room, I've asked him to wait a few days.... Pat

The empty nest syndrome... I remember it well. It is hard but you do get use to it and eventually even enjoy it. Jean x.

Pat, Yes you do get used to it and you should be proud that you have enabled your daughter to grow and be independent. I have found that they always come back.....make a mess... and go off again! I am sure now that your daughter has her own 'space' she will begin to appreciate all that youi have given her. Best wishes to you both. Beryl x :>))

Hi Pat, Both my boys have gone (daughter 23 still here) but they make sure they phone on sunday to ask what's for dinner. LOL It does seem strange not having them home though, I think my hubby misses them most. Teresa

My youngest daughter never showed any inclination to move out and we got on famously, so I didn't mind at all. Unbeknown to me, her eldest sister had a go at her, for 'taking advantage' of me and youngest suddenly announced that she was moving out AND moving 200 miles away. I thought this was her own choice and tho' I was utterly gutted, I pasted a smile on and helped her pack. After she left, I sobbed for a week. That was four years ago, and I doubt if she will ever come back here (no jobs). As I told my eldest, in no uncertain terms, SOME people should mind their own b*****y business! OC