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Teresa Thank you I have the photo that went on the coffin (Ialways had it) U have made me believe I shouldnt hide it I actually talk to it but I did before

Sometimes I think it does - sometimes maybe not! As so many people before me here have said, you come to terms and deal with it better. My dad died 14 years ago this december, and not only was he my dad, he was also my best friend!! The night he died I told him Mrs W was pregnant (we'd kept it quiet because he was so ill) and I will never forget the smile on his face..... There is never a day goes by I don't miss him, and I talk to him daily.

Thank you all who have answered this thread. May I say to all of you, Your Dads would have been proud of you, as my Dad said it easy to ignore but takes courage to except some one elses sorrow Thank you

Sorry to say.. No i don't think it ever stops.... I lost my dad 18 years ago now, every Sunday I think of him as it was the day I spoke to him on the phone. whenever I hear a Welsh accent I end up with tears in my eyes.. I tend to think of happy times which helps.. Pat

My dad would have been 87 this year had he not chosen to leave us 26 years ago. It was not so much hurt as the sadness that we didn't really know him as well as we might have done. His memories of WW2 when he was a Polish prisoner of war he would not discus, even with my mum, as they were so horribly terrible. He suffered with those memories throughout our childhood, whilst trying to bring us up with a balanced view of the way mankind should treat each other. Dad decided to end his life on earth in 1980, after suffering from a heart problem. He had been depressed ever since his parents had died in the late '60's and regretted not having had the chance to go back to Poland and visit them. It is so sad as had he lived for just a few more years he would have seen a Polish Pope, the falling of the Berlin wall and what would have been his eternal wish, the welcoming of Poland into the EEC. Had he been alive today he would have been so proud. RIP dad, that Is all I can say, and Poland did get there in the end. I know you are looking down.

Oh Peter my heart goes out to you, and in some ways makes my dad nothing, but to me he was everything

AS with Joy my father was at Dunkirk then later in Burma..he never came home....I always think of him...it hurt when I was 4... I still think of him but I would not desribe the feeling as hurt...my youngest son who has the same name as my father has just informed me that I am to be a grandad again,my children have never had a grandad.

I know it will always hurt, but I hope it gets easier because I couldn't bear to go on feeling the way I do now. We think our parents are always going to be there and it's a shock when you lose one. I hope it gets easier to bear for you and you can smile at some of the memories you have. As long as they are remembered they are still with us. Susan xx

Jaqui, We all have to deal with these things in our own way. I am not renown for being emotional and it is very rare that I express feelings for anything Perhaps that is because I'm my dad's son, but just now and again I let go. Take care and god bless Pxxx

My Dad never had grand kids from me and he would have been a good Gramps in fact he cried more for me when the IVF failed than I did

You've had a lot to bear, Jacqui, and knowing what my daughter and son-in-law went through with the IVF program I sympathise with you. Susan

jacqui im so sorry hubby lost his dad 4 years ago this christmas,aged 70. he never grieved properly but he often mentions him,and his eyes fill up. gpd bless you sweetheart susie xxxx

Thinking of you -can find no words to help-but hold on for your family and also for yourself, your Dad would not wish to afflict pain on you, tremember the happier time-God Bless you and your's-Jennifer.

I lost my lovely Dad 8 years ago; the real pain goes away a bit, but that feeling of loss never does. I loved mine dearly. Sylvx

Hi jacqui, I know nothing anyone can say can help, but please believe me the pain will start to ease, you will have bad days and not so bad days. Talk about your Dad and talk to your Dad, he will be there watching over you and listening. Keep safe, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Linda.

does anyone get any feathers left in unusual places,i do. before dad died i used to say will ya come back to me dad,and he,d joke and say ,er no......i want a rest.i,d say just a feather to tell me your there.i cant count the weird moments when they turn up.xxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi Jacqui,I lost my dad 7 years ago,I have to say it does get easier,I miss him like mad,I still cry about him,but eventually it does get less and you remember the good times. ((hugs)) to you because I know how you feel. Roxanne xxx

Joy as a builder me dad is more likely to drop an ammer on me head#, But some one has just returned after 2 yrs me sledge hammer Think I'll sush on that one . Thank you all for making me smile about my dad guess I/ll cry nother day. and he wouldn't let me neither <<<GRINNING>>>>

My Dad hasn't found me those lottery numbers but he ALWAYS finds me a parking space and helps me out of busy junctions and roundabouts!! He's been 'gone' but 'still here' for 18 years. At my wedding the vicar omitted to say 'who gives this woman'. It was like 'You can walk her up the aisle but you're not giving her away!!' Your dad will always be with you. BIG HUGS Amanda

I lost my dad on 16 October 1958 and that is all so very vivid to me even now. One learns to cope with the hurt and the crying lessens but I can still get a lump in my throat and tears in my eyes as I am now. Ann