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best punishment for teenagers...cut the purse strings..mine hated it..soon came round to my way of thinking

hi caz, kids r made for breakin ur heart, but u cant and never stop loving them. i have always said the hardest job in the world is being a mother and trying to get it right. ur son will make u proud to b his mum, trust me ive been it seen it and worn the t shirt, chin up, luv kathy.

hi caz, not sure wot ur prob is ,but i used to take the fuse out of the electric mains. diidnt work for me but might work for you, nite kathy.

Mary sweetheart thankyou I will Pm as dont want to put every thing on the boards, Josh has broken my heart and I hate his father for abandoning him butI think Mums always take the consequences,, I hope your lad continues to improve, it gives me hope, Caz xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Caz My heart goes out to you - had loads of probs with youngest son - police round the house more than once, eldest was golden - apart from only got 12 hours notice of his wedding - 9 years later still happily married I might add - but youngest tried to overdose on paracetamol and nurofen twice . broke my heart - yet he is 31 now - broken relationship, 2 children and problems seeing them - who he loves so dearly - but he has grown up and trying to make a life for himself. Suppose I am trying to say they do grow up. Take care love and try and stay sane. Love Mary in Spain xx

Thanks for your support Glenys and Liz and all who added to this thread, very much appreciated, Will let you know how things go, OC ta for PM will reply later, Caz xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Being on my own and under a lot of stress for various other reasons, I found it really hard when my son started facing up to me, there was no one he would listen to and was spoiling things for himself, at school and at home. We used to scream and shout at each other all the time, I just could not take his attitude and I was also menopausal at the time and felt I had no one to turn to. His friend still laughs about the time my son stormed out, slamming the door, so I bolted it and when the doorbell rang (we had been arguing over all his trainers in the hall, all muddy and slung around) I thought it was him, so I opened the door and hurled these trainers out, his friend's face was a picture, he had just come to call for my lad. My lad spent the evening hiding in the garage in the dark, as it was raining, he eventually came back and was calmer! Liz Caz, hope your Josh can find a way to let you know what is wrong and that you can get close again.

Caz Can you catch him when he is not being horrible and ask him to tell you what is making him like this? He may not know of course, and/or may not want to tell you. Tell him he can write it in a letter to you if he wants, or just write down how he is feeling.If he shouts negative abuse about this idea, just say 'I want to help you to be happy, and I can't, if I don't know what the problem is'. My eldest girl, the daughter from Hell, is now in her late 30s and we get on fine. I asked her WHY she was so awful, (to me in particular), and she said 'Because I reckoned I was dead 'ard!' It may just be that he is 'feeling his feet' and you are easy to hurt, for no particular reason, other than its safe to hurt YOU, because youre his mum. Best of luck - it passes, honestly it does, even though it doesnt seem like it now. OC

He was in hospital for 5 weeks with septic arthritis and was in for his birthday and Christmas, He wanted ALL my attention and went from being a lovely lad to a horror, He didnt come to AT Ann but is doing well now in his work placements just always angry with me, Caz xxxxxxxxxxxx

Reading this thread, I'd like to thank all of you, yes ALL of you, for giving me some much-appreciated tips. :-) Caz, you haven't half been through the mill over the past few years haven't you. Good luck with sonny. x

Was it the sort of illness that could ause a personality change? or did he get used to a lot of attention when he was ill and object to not getting it afterwards? Difficult to know these things isn't it? Maybe he can't help being like he is. Ann Glos

That may be true Ann, Josh was seriously ill when he was 11 and everything changed then, Caz xxxxxxxxxxxx

Is Josh possibly jealous of Nick? For instance is Nick brighter than he is? Could be down to sibling jealousy. Ann Glos

Thankyou Ann, this past year has been hell, When I got divorced the Dad of my eldest 3 wasnt there for them, Nick turned it to his advantage, by succeeding, Josh did not, Being on my own for 9 months while Graeme was made to go to Iraq has not made it easier, Thanks for your concern, Caz xxxxxxxxxxx

Take away their mobile phones Caz. and stand back to watch the withdrawal symtoms lol

Incidentally, i think you are very brave to put it up on here. Ann Glos

the good thing is that you think it worked Caz, the sad thing is that he still takes things out on you. Is it that he particularly annoys you (i.e. because you are much alike?) Or is he just using you to vent his anger over something deeper (i.e. we always hurt the one we love the most?) Ann Glos

No, no Bob I didnt mean that love, Just you saying it made me want a bit of absolution, ASBOS are not given to the worst criminals, my lad never did anything serious, lots of low level annoying things,they are given as a deterent,the real thugs get less in my opinion. Thanks Bob, you've not offended me love! Caz xxxxxxxxxx

Brian, I feel for you. My OH has a son with ADHD, OCD and conduct disorder. What a nightmare! OH became too ill to look after him, so he's with his mother now in Swansea, with a handful of older brothers to keep him in order. Nearly gave me a breakdown.

I am sorry, Caz, I seem to have put my foot right in it again.......... I will delete and go away........sorry again........... Bob