General Chat

I have made some wonderful friends on here who have helped me through some hard times. I have also seen some vicious and abusive stuff posted here. I'm happy to accept anyone until I see them writing abuse - after that I avoid them. Unless I see an apology - the word 'sorry' can heal a lot of wounds but some seem incapable of using it. I avoid people like that in real life and I avoid them here. I can't agree that all was OK here after the exodus 'over the rainbow'. There were still snide remarks and veiled references for those aware enough to spot them. I wasn't around much yesterday and I was out last night but I can see there has been trouble yet again. Reading back I can see snide remarks about people no longer able to defend themselves here. We are all capable of losing our cool in the heat of the moment and can say things which hurt others. The least we can do when that has happened is apologise. Some people have totally lost my respect recently. However, the majority of people here and 'elsewhere' are a friendly and supportive group and I am very grateful for the friendship offered. Gwynne

If some of you feel unforgiving about things that happened before, that is your way of dealing with it, but leave others to make up their own minds and take each person as they find them. We can have a happy and supportive board if we stop raking up the past and ignore snide comments and don't rise to the bait. Why does it have to be them and us? We should all be able to get on with each other - after all, we are supposed to be adults!! No more silly playground squabbles, please, it is coming up to the dreaded C word which is supposed to be a time of goodwill so let's all dig deep for a big dose of friendship and kindness to all our fellow members. Liz

It would be really lovely if we could all get on. Yet we are also all human and it is natural for us to have likes and dislikes about people. having said this why, if we dislike or distrust somebody can't we do as we would in 'real life' and ignore them? I know people have been hurt by others on here but the boards are large enough for them not to have to speak directly to those people. others have not had problems with the same people so must speak as we find. I have a neighbour who doesn't speak to another neighbour in our small close. I speak to both of them because I am not involved. And my neighbour doesn't go around encouraging others not to speak to the other neighbour (sorry that is complicated but I think you can see what I am getting at. For a couple of weeks after the split we seemed to have cracked it. Those who wanted to were happy on the other site, those who didn't want to go stayed, and some of us move between the two. It was great on here with everyone making an effort. let's not let it slide back to how it was again please. Ann Glos

Very well said!!! Sylvxx

Hello Twizzle! Have been away for a while, so I'm not very to date with what's happening at the moment, but I do know that was a bit of bother a few weeks ago. I agree with what David has said. Just reply to the 'happy' threads and try to ignore the rest. Margaret P.S. No offence, but just wanted to tell you that my daughter has just named her new cat Twizzle. She's a goregous tortoise shell.

wheres the sunny side???anyway dont worry still loads of nice friendly people on here,ready and willing to help.xx

For Dee your quizz's are brill just like most people on here

Hope you are not intending to abandon ship Twizzle, there are few enough people these days responding to my quizzes without you going ;-)))

And this is how the aggro starts !!!!!!!!! kin hell you know someone who kin knows someone who , and here we go again

well said twizz hope you stay xxx

Ah well got 8 days to make me mind up :-))))))))))

David who know who is accused? People i was originally warned about have been true friends and thats whats makes me so angry!!!! Caz xxxxxxxxx

Well said x

Hello Joy hows Jim ???

David please who are the people you mention?names would be useful, I have been been ' picked on ' in very subtle ways but have ignored it, Caz xxxxxxxx

David can understand your attitude and stance on this issue but surely if new members see the anger between the older members from previous issues then they will think . jeez if hate lasts this long then I do'nt wanna know , and this is not aimed just at you , but you can see on the boards the animosity between certain members , which should not be encouraged Twizzle :-)))

thanks for the posts :-)) will reply after beer

PS Saints won yesterday .... :-)

Twizz - there's still fun and friendship here ... :-) Always will be with us around ...... :-) By the way, I'm subscribed to several other family history sites and other websites (ie holmesdale.net). Plenty of room for them on the internet.

you and yours are stars , as is the old man , you take care , glad you enjoyed the day Twizzle