General Chat

linda so sorry that this has happened to your brother.it must be heartbreaking for you.did your parents death affect him in anyway.sometimes when a trauma occurs some people feel as though they want to leave the outside world behind them and just be on their ownxxxxx):

Hi Lisa, Thanks for your kind thoughts. No my brother has always been like this from a little boy. My Mum and Dad were so lovely and tried to protect him from everything. I think if he were young now he may be diagnosed with something like Aspergers Syndrome which is a milder form of Autism. My daughter and I have researched this and it seems quite likely. My Mum is the only person he has shown any form of affection for and that wasn't much. Linda

So, so sad, and it's natural to want to blame someone. Fact is these things can just 'happen' in spite of everyone's bet efforts. It's very sad for the man in question but realistically after death it would not matter to him. I feel for all the family and others left behind who will now be saying 'what if......?' I notice that the Local Authority has apologised but so far as I'm aware they don't have a responsibility for people's welfare. It's a sad situation all round.

It is a very sad fact that this happens in our society.Although 6 years is a long time not to be found Years ago with the people we are all researching it probably would not of happened often, because people looked after there friends, neighbours and family. Now a days every one is to busy to check if they haven't seen an elderly neighbour for a few days.And with the cut backs most of the times home helps don't work weekends. When i was in the nursing profession we had a gent brought in to our home that had alzheumer's and had lain next to his dead wife for a week as the home help was private( paid for by family that lived away) and she was on holiday and no-one covered her, All the poor man could say was 'she couldn't make his tea, she was poorly' so he had lived of whatever he found in the fridge. Maybe we should all make an effort to look out for people around us. I know I do and have told all my neighbours that if ever they need us day or night they only have to knock the door. God rest the poor mans soul and may be laid to rest in peace at last. Jan

I can visualise how this sort of thing can happen..........pension paid into a bank....direct debits for the services.and rent paid.....via the bank.......who is to know? unless its up to the 'nosey' neighbour that misses someone. yes it can happen, sorry to say...... Bob

Just told my Husband about this. He is a Housing Manager. He says it is in Walsall, West Midlands. I find it so hard to believe. But knowing Walsall Metropolitain Borough Council, I know the area, I can well believe it. Hubby says it is quite possible to happen if the man was on Housing benefits and had money paid into his bank account on a long term basis. Obviously some utilities may have been cut off. But it is no excuse that neighbours had not noticed anything. Will get onto my older daughters who live about 15 miles away from the area and see what I can find out. Jenny.

This doesn't surprise me at all. Its the sad state of the world we live in. I found out last week. A young was trying to kill herself on one of the major roads near where i live. It was late at night and nobody stopped to help her, just ensured they dodged her!. I stopped and got out of my car- i am only 5ft 3- far from stocky, to see if i could help her. Not one person stopped to help me. Luckily her boyfriend came along and sat on her (i know that sounds awful but better than being hit by a lorry). Still no one stopped. This gave me enough time to call the police so they could secure the road and help. Ok we don't know that people are on drugs etc- but how can people live with themselves! That could easily have been one of their friends or relatives. It just so happened that she had hit a real crisis point in her life andwas a cry for help. So easily could have been the tragic end.