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Do you like to put your own opinion across on the subject ??

We all have differing opinions, but a healthy debate I see as good board conversation.

The school dinner thread was a good debate, I had differing views to a good friend of mine but as adults we understood each other & never took offence :o))
and I thought the
GOVENMENT GRANT FOR FREE LAPTOP & INTERNET ACCESS thread was also good to start off with :o((

I don't expect people to follow my view & my view only & I feel other people shouldn't take umbrage if my view is different to theirs, & go off trying to make me look a baddie whilst they play their small violin.

Its also not a personal slur if I disagree with you over a subject.

Whats your take on debate on the board ?

I feel if its a subject Ive thoughts on I should able to put these points across. as long as I don't use the thread subject as a tool to "get" at someone.

Debate to your hearts content :o)))))

I like a good debate - on here as well as real life. I would hope I'm adult enough to accept that people have differing points of view and I have on occasion seen the other point of view and it's changed mine. What I can't stand on here or elsewhere is when the other person/s tries to make me feel stupid and insults my intelligence because I don't agree.

Sue xx

I agree with you completely Mildred. If you put a point of view on the board then you should expect a different one to be put forward too. We can't all be the same, its just not possible.

It's beyond me why some people get so uptight about someone offering a different opinion to theirs and taking it so personally, but again, we're all different.

But that difference should be respected in a debate, as should everyone's right to hold and voice our views without recrimination for not being the same. That's what debate is all about, that's how things are decided, by debating all points of view.

I might not like what some have to say, I might not agree with it, but I'd defend to the death their right to say it, and I expect the same from everyone else to be honest.

I love reading the threads on the boards and a good debate is brill. I have noticed sometimes though that it gets a bit personal so I don't post!

i have put up a number of debate threads
i have never expected people to agree with my views

everybodys different and nobody thinks the same

but i welcome all views

That's the point though Joy, some do take it personally if you don't agree with them and think you are just out to cause trouble. (by you I dont' me YOU, it's the royal 'we')

It's when I do my best to put my opinion across politely and reasonably then get told I'm wumming that I give up and wonder why our ancestors ever fought wars to preserve freedom of speech lol

I dont agree with friends just for the sake of it, I gave my view on the school meals thread that was my opinion, however I do take on board others views not than just my own, there was sort of one the other week where I thought the first man walking on moon was essential,the information taken from experiments such as this is indispensable, but others disagreed thats fine...

I LIKE being disagreed with lol......but then I'm a bit odd like that !!!!

I won't shirk from disagreeing with anyone........friend or foe........you can't be expected to see things in the same way as friends in real life let alone on here !!!!

If I was interested in a thread and I wanted to comment........I would........it's a public board after all !!!! xx

Rubbish Muffy, you're completely wrong, and I totally disagree with you.


There....happy now? lol

Hmmmm there is always one...tsk

i tend to add what i think, then see others posts n think ohhhh there right, but im rubish at putting things down in words, :( xxx

*pokes tongue out at TW*

*agrees with Hayley who is now my new best friend* pmsl xx

As I see it it's not friends disagreeing that cause the problems - most of us can accept that we don't all think alike. To my mind the trouble starts when a WUM arrives or someone takes the debate personally. Then the insults start and someone often ends up angry and retaliating.

Sue xx

I love a good debate. I don't expect everyone to have the same views on everything - be a dull world if we all did. Therefore on a debate thread you will have differing views. Depending on the subject there is often no "right" or "wrong" as it's quite often just a viewpoint. Although some subjects might be difficult to defend maybe.

Loved the school dinner thread - interesting comments on there and I added my two penn'orth!

I don't think Gwen meant the free laptop thread as a debate thread. Although, as it turned into a debate thread maybe she could have just let it run as one? In any event there were some interesting points the last time I read one of them!

But the answer to your initial question is "Not always". I read some threads that I don't add to. I try not to add to threads that might go AWOL as I find it really difficult to sit on my hands! And, sometimes, I don't want to share my opinion. There are a few topics that I'd rather not get too involved in ...

Jill

A good debate is healthy, and everyone should be entitled to express their views, and even perhaps justify them if it's true debate.

There must of course be rules, and the terms and conditions we all hold so dear must be our boundaries,

However, so long as the RR button exists, and people shout "my thread, my rules" then there is no chance.

But,as a member of the bebating society at both school and university I do enjoy a good old argy-bargy.......

I never mind who disagrees with me in a debate...I always know I'm right...................

No but seriously if it is a subject I have an opinion on or feel I can put a different viewpoint ( sometimes playing 'devil's advocate' ) then I find it hard not to add.

If it is a topic I know nothing of, i will just read and then go and look it up for my own amusement...I like to learn something new :)

Often there are debates where there is no 'black and white' and no one is wrong or right, it is just a different and perhaps very personal perspective. It is good to hear different views, it helps clarify ones own :))

xx PS if I get really narked I go off and slam some doors, especially if I think I might get narked with a friend :))

I feel the same way as Marcelle. Some of the debates do get very personal and I hesitate in posting. A couple of months ago a guy called Medic put up a thread. Not sure what it's heading was, but it was about bullying on the boards. He was attacked and at the time I felt really sorry for him. Lots of people said he was a WUM. That a real medic wouldn't post. I thought it odd at the time, but about a month ago, the very same person made contact about one of my rellies. Did we have a connection. Turns out we did ( only through marriage). Well I met Medic and his wife - we swapped some pics - and they were entirely genuine.

Catie x

I like a debate thread that gets really personal and turns into a slanging match. Great larf.

Different strokes for different folks...

I disagree mildred ;) where it is clearly a debate or a question has been asked suggesting a debate I think it's good for people to put their views across albeit if they are different. I would expect people to be polite but I expect most people are on here.

However I think some threads aren't for heated debate. If someone is giving out information to help others I would not expect a heated debate about it, yes you may want to add something that compliments it or additional info but I don't think it's for debate. Ie I wouldn't add to joy's football thread to say that I disagree with all the money that is spent on football.

Also I think threads that wish people or their family well shouldn't be subject to debate. If you don't like that person you should just avoid it and let their friends comment.

Just my opinion, I'm sure others will disagree :)