General Chat

With my first daughter it instant love with my second it took time. she was 9 weeks prem many complications. I think it was cause I was unable to hold her and the fact that for 4 weeks it was very touch and go I was scared to love her. but now I love them just the same

With my first child everyone assumed I was having a girl, and when it turned out to be a boy, it was a real shock. I can remember thinking, 'that's not my baby'. Added to that, my lovely MIL had lung cancer and died soon after, and I suffered from post natal depression. I think it took me a while to bond with him because there was such a lot going on. With my daughter it was instant because at the time she was born, my life was so much simpler, although when pregnant with her, I can remember worrying that I wouldn't love my baby, as much as I did my son. Have to say that I couldnt love them anymore than I do, even though they are both very different Sharon xx

As with others very difficult with 1st baby, 26 hour labour with face presenting 9lb 8 oz baby, When I awoke from the general anaesthetic I felt cheated, The others were all planned sections and I bonded more easily as I breast fed them all for a long while, I did have PNd after 2 though, Caz xxxxxxxx

instantly it must be so hard for these mums who have to wait for it to grow, they must be just so tired and have been through a difficult time, my first was so quick to get into this world she didnt keep me waiting, my beautiful blonde blue eyed girl , looking up from her cot as she met nana and grandad , my second took his time and really made me work hard for him, gorgeous with brown hair , blue eyes, and a little cutie, though a bit afraid with him as he was earlier and a bit tinyer than his sister, though couldnt resist cwtching them both lots

lynda i would have to say it was love at first sight .didn't really see my daughter properly till the next day as i was so drugged up but she was an angel..still love her today as i did thenxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx((((:

Absolutely! The most amazing experiences of my life!!

I've just read through all the replies on here, and am not surprised to see just how many people there are, where instant love didn't happen. Hope it gives some comfort to anyone who reads it and felt guilty thinking it was just them who felt this way.