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Any advice from all you peeps of wisdom who have got the bringing up teens and surviving tee shirt... Pleeeeeeeeeeeease! Caz xxxxxx

I don't have any children, but playing Wagner at full blast might do the trick! :-))

caz i used to ground mine for a month,remove their tele from their room and also their stereos lol it worked wonders. only had to do it the once good luck hun by the way i had 4 teenagers all at once:( susie x

Sheila as a classical music fan that may work! Susie, I think taking away is best, when people say giving a good slap is the answer I disagree, it doesnt work, 4 at once......yikes, I have 3 { eldest sweetheart though} and 2 smalls that is bad enough! caz xxxxxxxxx

caz i agree. 3 boys and 1 girl. the boys were far easier than my girl lol it hurt them more by removing everything susie x

Hi Caz, with 16-y-o daughter at the moment dominating our life - or trying to - we find that not rising to the bait makes her furious. However, she eventually sees it as futile and backs down. We're sorely tempted most times, though, to tell her to get out - but I know that wouldn't help!! Good luck! x

ive had 4 lads if you dont talk to them they soon come across

Yeah Hoff ignoring them drives them mad doesnt it? Glenys I've come very close to kcking my 16 year old lad out, caz xxx

threaten to go and meet them at the school gates, wearing your tartiest ensemble, whereupon you will throw your arms around them and kiss them, squealing 'Have oo missed your mummikins today, then, my ickle pudden? You will only have to do this once. OC

Yep I agree, ignore them it drives them mad. For younger teens I always grounded them, that really wound them up and they soon learnt that I meant business. Sue

Ignore tantrums. Cut off essential supplies such as pocket money and free taxi rides. Don't wash clothes or tidy up for them Cut off electricy supply.

school gates what school, i am on my way cant wait to see this cor lol

I love that OC and it has crossed my mind! Embarassing them infront of their mates is the worst thing ever, Caz xxxxxxxxx

my 2 girls were worse than my boy is turning out. I seem to have a prodigal daughter at the mo. I thought once they left home that was that I cold relax and put my feet up but no way..........

EEK!! I have a 14 yr old mooooooooooo and a wind up merchant son of 10...... my ears hurt over all the squabbling etc etc. I did wonder if I got together with another Mum and we stood outside Tesco's with our teenagers if we could sell 'em off as a Buy One Get One Free offer??? Anyway I found that TAKING AWAY luxuries ( Internet, mobile, ipod, TV etc etc ) helps.......... also add on some EXTRA chores and if the worse comes to the worse my last line of defence will be to take her wardrobe away and buy and make her wear what I'd like to see her in ( I'm looking 4ward to this punishment should it come around ) Much happiness Exhausted mum of a Moo of a Teenager

Well, two of my three were absolute ******* and how I did not kill them I do not know. But - outside the home they were normal, polite and well-behaved. I would rather have it that way than perfect angels at home and little b****s outside. Don't despair, they grow out of it by the time they are 30, lol. OC

I don't think I would like to wish them on our underpaid overworked, under esourced military. But some for of 'boot camp' for offenders seemms a good idea to me. But I don't think we are talking about those here are we? We are just talking about normal teenagers. My daughter was hardly any trouble, she used to sulk (but so did I) and answer back sometimes, but as it was in the pre 'must have all the gizmos' days in the 70s when she was a teenagers there was not a lot to take away. occasionally she got sent to her room (where she would happily read until I said she could rejoin us) but all in all i was very lucky with her. Son wasn't too bad either although he used to wind me up as he hit his teens when I hit the start of the menopause (not a good combination). I would walk out of the house and return when his dad came in from work - used to take the dog for a long walk. They grow out of it. And the three grandsons that are in their teens are very good, the oldest two don't chat a lot but they are helpful, do chores and don't get into trouble. Ann Glos

Peters tip to cut off electricity supply made me giggle. My son and I were outside his room, I had weakend that day and rose to the bait, and we were toe to toe having a shouting match. I wouldn't back down cos I'm too stubborn. In the end he stormed into his room slammed the door, locked it and turned his stereo up full blast! I reached up to the trip switch right next to the door and turned off the power, shouting 'you WILL listen to me!' 'That's not funny Mum!' Oooooh it was lol

Bob my son of 16 was given an ASBO which was terribly difficult but ultimately it has helped him alhough it doesnt mean he is any nicer to me, I'm waitng now as I have made an admission which is very painful for me, I need support not to be got at,thankyou all, I was never going to put this on the boards as I have 4 other kids who dont give me much trouble, Caz xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi, i have six lovely children. The eldest have flown the nest. I was talking to my son the other day and i asked him what was the worst punishment i gave him.He replied raking the leaves from the back lawn.It would take a good 2 hrs,unless of course he'd been naughty more than once,which i might add wasn't that often. I asked why and he replied ,because it gave me time to reflected on what i had done and i could work off my anger raking.It wouldn't work now as we've moved and of course was a seasonal punishment. I found with my daughter taking her moblie phone was a good one. I find grounding didn't work , they got on my nerves more what did annoy them more was making them come in earlier than normal. Tina