General Chat

Rose,

Thanks for your understanding, It was a quick temper reaction. and would never ever consider hitting a woman again. I have been remarried for over 30 years and as happy as Larry

Yes Frank being cheated on is rotten, and it must have been so very heartbreaking for you. Can understand you losing it.

My first husband did not cheat on me, to my knowledge, but putting his mates, before me was as heartbreaking. I felt like hitting him, on several occasions, but never did.

He died, and I remarried, and as you have been happy for the past 30 years, so have I for the past 41years.

No Frank,she has not been playing away.In fact 2 weeks ago i went with her and her 3 boys and took another couple of grandchildren on a Sun holiday for a couple of days.We had a good time,but this is her childrens yearly holiday.Her ex is a waste of space and never ever gave her a penny.She goes to work and pays for everything.She has had enough and she told him to go back in April.She got punched in the face as she had her friend round who he also threatened and she dont want him back.In fact she has not got the time to have anyone else as her boys all belong to football clubs and swimming clubs.Her kids are her life at the moment. Annie

My late ex husband was a alcoloholic and there was a lot of violence in the home, but has I said before that was over twenty years ago, had I known the damage that both of us was doing to the children I would have not stayed so long in the marriage, because in my case it has done the children (who are now in their thirteis) long term damage.
lynn

Sorry Lynda, But a slap across the face is not a beating.and if you haven't been in that situation I don't think you have the right to condem anyone who has. I only asked the question because this is often the reason someone might loose there temper.and lash out at their partner. I am not condoning any man beating his wife, and would be the first to defend any woman in that situation.

Frank

Grannie, so sorry if I upset you in anyway, I was only trying to think what could have bought this on.He sounds an absolute waste of space and her and the children must be better off without him. Would he be so brave in front of a MAN.

Frank

Frank, I think you have apologised and explained enough, you don't know Annie or her family as you haven't been on the boards long, I don't think so, wouldn't have known Annie's daughter got shot of the bloke a while back.
I am sure Annie would understand what you meant after your further explanations.
Just hope this chap is made to stay away now for good, and the lads are ok, as well as Annie's daughter.

Lizx

Frank I don't know you but having read all this thread at least 4 times I agree with Lynda.... and trust me that doesn't normally happen as she and I don't speak!

Your first post sounded like a normal bloke's explanation of a woman beater!! As yes I've been there!

I've heard the man I love say he just slapped me when in fact I've been beaten, and no I wasn't playing away!

I accept your reasoning but your wording initially wasn't great!

Grannie..... I hope your daughter is safe and out of harm

xx

nothing BRINGS THAT ON as suggested just reading the threads,

absolutely nothing warrants that treatment,
im working with a head ache here and a slow puter but im sure grannie said her daughter got a broken nose,
im pretty sure i did

thats NOT a slap across the face, to break someones nose is a hard smak, and no one deserves that,

grannie
i do hope your daughter is ok, and the boys are too,
they will make thier own minds up of their dad by what theyve seen, they dont need to be told , kids are very good judges of character, and it sounds like they are good lads defending their mam,
i hope they are all safe, adn remain that way,
tell your daughter to ask police about a panic number, that way soon as she phones them they will be there so quick

Oh and a piece of advice that I was given...... if he ever threatens to come over you can call the police and tell them that!!

You do not have to wait until he arrives!

xx

i heard a guy once used to say he blacked out every time he battered his wife. he would do it if his football team lost or she came home 10 mins late he would beat her. funy that tho he never blacked out when huge tall men his own size were around he wouldnt dream of taking any man on here for a fight rather have one with a girl. that was him all over used to cry when a guy backed him into a corner.

Been with daughter most of today.Hospital say it looks like he has hit her from side on and broke her cheek bone as well.She has to see a surgeon next week. when the swelling as gone down.I am so proud of my grandsons that all at the same time jumped him punched him and chased him down the road.I know now they will always look after her. Annie

Those grandsons of yours probably need to get some therapy. No knowing what the sight of seeing your dad beating your mum can do.

Rose

I am really sorry to hear about your daughter. i have had many women arrive at my centre with young kiddies clinging to them. it is heart breaking.
But she has a good mum to help her through this.
I wish her well .

Shirley Ann.

Yet again, against every bone in my body, agreeing with Lynda!

People should keep their hands to themselves

FULL STOP

Hi Grannie,
I was someone who witnessed this happen to my mother and also my sister who was 15 at the time, i fortunately was 16 and had a job, so left home and got my own place and then took my younger sister with me after my stepfather broke her nose,
My mum did try throwing him out but in those days police didnt interfere in domestic issues?(1970s)
Eventually when they were called again and caught red handed beating up my mum, the police prosecuted, he still got off but at least he left as he was not allowed near my mums house.
I to was unfortunate enough to be in this kind of relationship for six months, as these men can seem so charming at the start.
I agree with some of the other women on this thread, they are scumbags who dont kick off in front of other men who may, hit them back.
I am happily married now and have been for 20 years.
with 4 children and 4 grandchildren.
So please let your daughter know there is light at the end of the tunnel, and things do get better in time.
Please let your daughter and grandchildren know there are lots of people thinking of them.
Also sending you a hug, as a mother it is not easy seeing your daughter and grandchildren coping with this.

Bev x

I hope your daughter and grandchildren are safe and well. give them my kindest regards. I hope they will soon fell better from the ordeal they have gone through.

frank

Annie just read this.

Hope your daughter and her boys are safe

xx

Hi
Annie
just wondered how you are all doing,
hope you are all ok
take care
Bev x